Is it normal for your gf to spend lots of time with opposite-sex friends?

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My GF recently made a new opposite-sex friend and has been spending many hours with him every other day.

Though I don't have much experience with platonic opposite-sex friendships, I think they're possible. But, regardless, I think they might be spending too much time together.

What worries me is how not long after they started talking, he created a Facebook account just to tell her that he "likes" her. Upon him telling her that, she told him that she has a BF—me—but that she'd be willing to be his friend.

I worry that, perhaps, one of these days he'll make a move on her and she'll reciprocate.

I know that my GF loves me. But should be worried?

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    Friends make great lovers. He'll probably get to hear about all of your relationship problems and he'll be there to comfort her. She'll tell him everything she likes and dislikes about you, so he'll shapeshift into the perfect man for her, making you look like a loser. Sorry...

    I do think an opposite sex platonic friendship is possible, but all too often this "friendship" milarky has an ulterior motive. You just have to see how they act around one another to be an accurate judge of that, lest my first paragraph come true.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      "Friends make great lovers. He'll probably get to hear about all of your relationship problems and he'll be there to comfort her. She'll tell him everything she likes and dislikes about you, so he'll shapeshift into the perfect man for her, making you look like a loser. Sorry..."

      That's happened to me before . . . :'(

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      • myboyfriendsbitch
        10 years ago

        I hate when I'm right about stuff like this... hopefully your current relationship will go better, but some things just aren't meant to last. If your girl falls for stuff like that, believe me when I say she's not worth your time.

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  • kittykat9930
    10 years ago

    You should definitely be worried! The more time that she'll spend with him, I'm sure the more likely she'll develop feelings for him. I'm not sure what you should do without coming off too controlling though.

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    If you can't bring yourself to trust your partner to have opposite sex friends, you might as well call it a day right now because trust is pretty important in relationships.

    If you're going to do anything at all, confront the guy and make sure he knows where he stands. But there's no point, because there's really no reason to think this guy will "make a move" on her and no reason to think she would reciprocate if he did. You're being paranoid.

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  • q1w2e3
    10 years ago

    Yes you should be worried. A lot.

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago

    Yeaahhhh...I'd be worried. I mean, there's old male friends she's known since highschool, then there's the "new" male friend. If she's making a new male friend, you should be hanging out all 3 of you, not just her and him..

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  • YoungerSis
    10 years ago

    The end result of this will not be good. She will end up having an affair with him. Then when you finally find out there will be a big argument. She will run back to him for comfort and your relationship with her will be over.
    At least that is how it turned out for one of my friends.

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  • Loeyyiiero
    10 years ago

    In all seriousness, she chose you, not him. Therefore, get the dick out of your ass and get on with life. This isn't the fucking 'Jezza' show.

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  • Loeyyiiero
    10 years ago

    Now it starts as friends. Let's just sit down, smoke some weed, and wait for them to fuck so you can call the relationship a day.

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  • kanachan
    10 years ago

    If your girlfriend falls for him, then your relationship with her probably won't last anyway. I hope it doesn't happen, but if it does, just remember that girls like that aren't worth the trouble.

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  • ThousandPoundsOfGanja
    10 years ago

    Did she say they went to "Poundtown"? But in all seriousness, if you can't trust her that relationship will suck. That being said, I don't trust anyone because I can't trust myself.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Nope she's already giving them jobs.

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    • SandyGun5555
      8 years ago

      You absolute dick.

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      • Terence_the_viking
        8 years ago

        woah this is a blast from the past.

        Areyou stalking me?

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