Is it normal for your gf to sometimes feel lonely while she's dating you?

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My girlfriend often feels lonely even when we've been talking regularly. When she tells me or other people that she feels lonely, it makes me feel inadequate and sad. It feels like she's seeking out someone else.

I know she loves me a lot and that she's happy to have me in her life, but I somehow still find this troubling.

Am I silly for letting this upset me?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    No, you aren't silly - that seems like a very legitimate thing to question. You might, but I doubt you have a lot to worry about. (:

    Maybe she is referring to having friend-friends which she is lonely for. Because, there's a different between the companionship of a boyfriend/girlfriend to that of a friend.

    For instance, if you two were stranded on a deserted island and you only had each other for company. You are in love with each other but, naturally, it would be healthier if you had a conversation with a different person now and then---and not just with some stranger, but a friend whom you like.

    The love for friends is different. You need them about as much as you need your girlfriend/boyfriend, but the love is a different sort of love. I think if she were lonely because she's unhappy for you, she wouldn't say something like this to you; unless she was accusing you directly of making her feel lonely - but then that's just a whole other can of worms, and everything I've written would not apply.

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    • Rexter
      11 years ago

      don't be too optimistic.

      she probably needs some other man who can give her the feel of protection and home

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      • dom180
        11 years ago

        Men aren't the only thing women need to feel happy, just like women aren't the only thing men need to be happy.

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  • Johnnytherat
    11 years ago

    draw a face on your dick & let her talk to it

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  • lolol555
    11 years ago

    I have a mixed opinion on this question. I know I, myself, have felt lonely in relationships but it was never because of the other person - in fact they helped my inner loneliness immensely - but because of my relationship with my parents.

    I'm not saying it's the exact same case for her but, by lonely, she may be referring to her relationships with friends and family which are just as needed as her current relationship with you.

    It's not a great situation but all I can suggest is that you try to comfort her and be there for her right now. That said, I don't think this is your fault at all. You sound like a really good boyfriend to her and I wish the both of you the best of luck in the relationship.

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  • chicanapride1041
    11 years ago

    Hmm maybe she has a lonely past she probably needs attention from a friend well just keep communicating with each other take some space once in a while well I feel like that mostly because my boyfriend hardly has time for me always finds an excuse or something :/ anyways hope your relationship goes well

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Maybe she fells like she is trapped like in a prison or something.

    Like i don't know.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    I have not read any of the above comment and I think that maybe she just needs to go out with girls more often. Even when you're happy in a relationship you feel lonely sometimes because the only person you meet is your boyfriend/girlfriend.

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  • curiouskate101
    11 years ago

    are you treating her right? if no then of course its normal but if you are then its not

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  • scandinavia
    11 years ago

    maybe she is depressed?

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  • WingGlow163
    11 years ago

    I've been in this situation, yet I felt very lonely though I loved my boyfriend a lot. I think I wanted to feel secure and I was often worried to speak my mind in case what he replied with was too 'honest' for my liking. As odd as it sounds, I'm pretty sure I'm not the only person who felt that way. Make sure she's secure, all girls get a little like that sometimes :)

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