Is it normal for your gf to let you hook up with other guys?

So my gf knows I'm bisexual. She was pretty uncomfortable with it when we first started dating because she knows that in an ideal relationship for me, there needs to be another guy. I kind of repressed that part of myself at the beginning of our relationship because I could tell it was a shock to her. Now that the months have passed she has calmed down and accepted who I am. She actually has told me a couple of times,"you can totally go hook up with a guy, just tell me. Don't lie to me" then she goes on about nagging feelings. I can honestly say I haven't done anything yet, I have been thinking about it however. I just keep hearing admiral ackbarr saying "its a trap!" Whenever I start to think, 'wow, this woman is amazing'. I'm gonna be honest if I DO choose to do it, I'd rather be true and lose her than keep her under false pretenses. Honesty is almost always the best policy.

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  • thegypsysailor

    I do not understand why you have a gf if you still feel the need to see others, or why you feel the need to see others if you have a gf. Isn't the whole point of having a significant other and naming him/her your gf/bf a commitment of some sort?
    You know damn well if you do go with someone else you will hurt this girl, no matter what she says. It doesn't sound like you are ready for a real relationship yet.

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    • Nokiot9

      Because I love the woman I'm with. She is an important part ofmy life and me of hers. My last gf broke up with me because she couldnt handle it, and ive totally come to find out that like... 80% of women arent okay with an open relationahip, where between men, its almost the norm. Just bbecause I'm bi doesn't mean I fear commitment or am lacking in it. I've been this way ever since I can remember, always had a physical attraction to guys. And idk if I just never found the right guy or opened myself to the possibly, but I don't see men in a romantic type of way...

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    • blankmind

      I never liked people saying there bi for 1, you are gay u r not bi,2 u must be dumb to think a girl would allow you to basically. Cheat with permission and think she wont do the same..what you need to worrie bout is if your gonna get an std..

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      • Nokiot9

        You are a narrow minded fool

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        • blankmind

          No I am not, this conversation consists of narrow minded people andi am not one of them, one is the guy in which wrote this article and thinks he can not be happy with one persion and has to have a penis in his ass and the othr is you for not considering other people's opinions and aaccepting that I have my owne mind whichi choose to voice my opinions, you had your say and this is mine..

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      • (s)aint

        I'd love it if a guy I dated hooked up with guys, as long as he didn't brought home any STDS.

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        • Nokiot9

          Protection is always a must. The guy I see is I've known for a long time. I don't like being pernicious its dangerous.

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        • blankmind

          Yea probably so you can bang em too..you like your "man" to have a dick in his mouth and ass..and then come home to you aftrr he nutted over a guy?

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          • (s)aint

            Eh ...? So what? The last two guys I've dated have allowed and encouraged me to hook up with other women so why wouldn't I return the favour if I were to date a bisexual man?

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  • Shoefish

    "So my gf knows I'm bisexual. She was pretty uncomfortable with it when we first started dating because she knows that in an ideal relationship for me, there needs to be another guy."

    This reads like you think your bisexuality requires you to have two partners. I've never understood people who think that way. You just don't like monogamy.

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    • Nokiot9

      It does for me in this situation. She won't let another guy be an equal partner, so she let's me do my thing. And this has Been bugging me, how am I ever supposed to be in a monogamous relationship being bisexual? A tranny with both parts Lol? No no no not my thing...

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      • Shoefish

        Are you having me on? Bisexuality just means that you are attracted to both men and women, it has never meant that you have to have both. If you personally can't be with only one person, that's fine but don't paint others with the same brush. You are just reinforcing ignorant views, such as the old "I couldn't date a bisexual person because I could never trust them."

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    • CloverFish

      ^^

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      • Shoefish

        Hello, fellow fish!

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  • RainbowDischarge

    Wait. Bc youre bi, you have to date 2 people?

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  • iEatZombies_

    This is kind of like saying you need a girl with small tits and a girl with big tits, because both make your hands feel differently....

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  • CloverFish

    It's great that as a couple you've talked about this honestly! I'd make sure she truly wasn't bothered from the aspect of it before you proceeded. There a other non-monogamist relationships out there that have one peep with two partners and the others with one, but they are tricky to manage. If something remotely stops feeling right, it's best to end it there.

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  • Nokiot9

    Can one of you jackasses tell me what I'm supposed to do instead of shitting all over my lifestyle and being g sarcastic?

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  • anti-hero

    Thanks for ruining Star Wars for me...

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  • deepthought33

    Shoefish and RainbowDischarge kinda made me realize that I feel this way myself.

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    • Shoefish

      Do you mean you feel the same way about bisexuality as the OP? If so, can you explain why?

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      • deepthought33

        It's wierd. I'd never put much thought into it before so I'm not even sure myself. It's almost like...I feel I wouldn't even be bi if it were not for my perceived capacity handle non-monogamous relationships with little drama. Little drama on my end anyway.
        I don't feel entitled to it though and I figure it's likely that I won't ever fall into that kind of arrangement long-term.

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  • PieGoblin^^

    LAME.

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  • Shroot

    inb4kolo

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