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Having sex, you say "can we stop", they say "I'm close" so it continues and you ask again but get the same reply. Should I be upset or should I be more clear? Does this happen to you? It's happened quite a few times..
Edit, thanks for all replies , they have helped a lot
Since asking him to stop doesn't seem to work so well, next time just give his nut sack a firm tug.
Or say "Fuck me (insert ex-boyfriend's name)". I guarantee he will stop dead in his tracks.
If the guy is close to cumming I say let him finish but that's from a guys point of view. If he is just playing around and the woman is getting bored and tells him to stop then that's a different story or if she is in serious pain such as a dry vagina. In other words it depends on the circumstance. My opinions for what it is worth.
You can be more clear. "Let's stop now" but it is certainly not the lack of understanding or misinterpretation.
You should sit down and talk to this partner. Say that you don't feel comfortable continuing when you say this. It's kinda rapey as well. But be understandable, that for men (I assume you're partner is a man) it's much more difficult to stop mid act. Even then, they must stop of you revoke your consent, which you have all the right to do.
So make him understand this. And if you feel bad in such occasions, you can offer to finish him off in another way so he will still get off.
When either partner says stop, everything should stop. If someone doesn’t stop it is not only disrespectful, it’s forced sex.
Stop means stop, so find yourself a partner that respects you.
Stop means stop, regardless in the manner in which it was said, or asked. Otherwise, this borders on rape, regardless of your relationship status. If it happens again and he says that, jam your knee into his balls as hard as you can.
Saying "Can we stop?" should be implied that the person doing the asking wishes to stop for one reason or another. Can you stop? Will you stop?...........still means STOP.
If you want to stop, why do you say, "Can we stop?"
If you want to stop you should state that emphatically, not make a suggestion.
If he continues to do what he's doing after you've told him to stop, then he's continuing after you've withdrawn consent, and that's rape or sexual assault.
If you want him to stop is it because he's not ringing your bell and your getting bored?
if she wants to stop,then he isn't doing her any good,cause a hot fuck is so good.
I agree with boojum. Don't ask if you can stop, say it emphatically. You have to communicate clearly what you desire.
i always answer ill let you know when im done. you have the right to remain silent . Now you know the rules of my bedroom. In your bedroom you get to make the rules. Understand ? so far begging a man to stop has not bee so successful has it? let me put this another way, if you are in my house i make every rule , dont let the door hit you in the ass on the way out.