Is it normal for this to happen in bed?

I've read various statistics, but surveys have found that, at most, only around a quarter of women can consistently reach orgasm with just penis-in-vagina sex. For the majority of women, the position of the clitoris relative to the vagina is such that PIV simply doesn't give the clitoris enough prolonged stimulation to get them to orgasm.

Making things worse is one of nature's cruel tricks: young guys in their sexual prime can go from soft to ejaculation in just a few minutes, while it's normal for women to require twenty minutes or even more to reach orgasm.

I guess the reverse cowgirl position is your boyfriend's idea, and that's because he likes looking at your butt? It's one of the worst positions for clitoral stimulation, because there's simply nothing there to rub on. With regular cowgirl, you might be able to move your clitoris on him enough to produce at least a few sparkles.

Some women adore doggy-style, and lots of guys like it too (the butt thing again). However, while this can provide G-spot stimulation if done correctly, it doesn't provide any direct stimulation of the clitoris - unless you do it yourself (which is perfectly acceptable, by the way).

I've never been keen on 69. The concept is very sexy, but my experience is that oral sex is best when the giver can concentrate on the receiver, and the receiver can concentrate on what they're getting.

Two things stand out to me in your OP: you're very inexperienced, and your boyfriend doesn't seem to give a damn if you come or not.

Even with a considerate and talented lover, inexperienced women often have problems reaching orgasm, and that's often due to crap going on in their heads. They find themselves worrying about how they look, how they sound, if they'll be interrupted, what they should or shouldn't be doing, or a million other things. In other words, they're too much in their heads, rather than in the moment and just feeling.

From what you say about your guy, I doubt if you'll ever reach that point with him, unless he ups his game considerably. You say he's experienced, but that doesn't mean shit. For all you know, all of the girls he's been with before were left just as unsatisfied as you are now.

There's an old saying: "A good man never comes first." It sounds like your boyfriend is such an immature, selfish clot that this concept is completely alien to him.

You say you don't want to try new positions just yet, but I don't quite see your logic here. From what you say, it seems that what you're doing now just ain't all that great for you, so it would only be sensible for you to try other things.

One of those things might be a different boyfriend who's actually interested in giving you pleasure, and less focused on staring at your butt as he bangs away like a deranged monkey.

If you want to think about other positions, the website below has a huge range. Some are ridiculous, some involve the risk of serious injury, and some are suitable only for professional athletes, but there are also some good ones.

https://sexinfo101.com/positions

Try using a strap on dildo and putting it in his butt

I would say that in this case, new positions just might be advantageous for you. This way, by exploring different positions, you can figure out what works best for you to help you reach orgasm. Instead of reverse cowgirl, try facing him instead of away from him. Try different scissor techniques. Straddle him sitting in a chair. But do not let him pressure you into doing anything you are not comfortable with. Do it when you are ready. But do keep your mind open to the possibility of more advanced techniques. Good luck!

To be fair, I think most young guys are pretty selfish in bed. Not that that's an excuse - he's gotta learn. But I think a lot of them are like that (or maybe just I was....).

Anyway...try new things. But I think it might be better if the ideas were coming from you, not him.

Only do what you find to be good. He is after sex, not love, leave him.

It's definitely worth trying some different positions if what you are doing isn't really working for you. However, you need to remember one thing, you are in charge, so here's what you do.
1) Find out what he would like to try, that takes verbal communication, apparently something the younger generation find quite challenging without an electronic gadget, nevertheless it is possible.

2) If you are open to what he wants to try that's good, if not then discuss further, negotiate find something he would like that you are agreeable to.

3) Here's the clincher, you're happy to do what he wants BUT, you need an orgasm first. Tell him you want oral, if he is happy to do that lie back and enjoy, if he won't go down on you, that's still ok because, you have left room for negotiation, you can agree to him using his fingers to bring you to orgasm, (or anything else you might be agreeable to).

4) If he does a good job (you will know if he has) you decide what happens next, remember you are in charge, and you have choices.

a) Give him what he wants.
b) Thank him, tell him that was lovely, but you really are to tired now to do anything else, but you will try that new position next time.
c) Give him what he wants, but make him work a bit harder for it. You will think of something.

5) You base your choice (a,b or c) on how well he behaved (or sometimes choose b, just because it's your prerogative as a woman to be a bitch occasionally)

6) Whatever you choose you continue to set the pace, occasionally you might even still change your mind before you reach your goal (or his). That's still ok because YOU ARE IN CHARGE.

7) If he did not do a good job you tell him you are not satisfied, and he needs to keep practicing on you (definitely no one else). Once he can satisfy you go back to number 4.

Whatever happens always remember
(A) If you want an orgasm that is the primary concern for BOTH of you. His orgasm is now only a secondary concern.
(B) If you decide you definitely want an orgasm try to make sure you cum first, unless you are feeling confident you can cum together. Don't forget your orgasm is THE PRIMARY CONCERN, so once you have had it don't be afraid to tell him to stop, even though he might not have cum yet. Obviously don't do this all the time, you want to satisfy him, but the occasional reminder of who is in charge is important from time to time.
(C) Whatever happens you are ALWAYS in charge.

If you are not ready then tell him and he doesn't understand that he is wrong for you

I'm in a similar case id say start in the closer of the 2 positions before you go into the new one once you do have a signal for if you are uncomfortable like tapping his leg and if you do that you go back to the original position and another signal to take a break incase it was to much for you to continue

Ok I’m 21, my wife and I have been married for 10 months, and we were virgins when we got married. I’m gonna go on the psychological (and opinionated) perspective here, so don’t judge me too harshly. My wife and I, as I stated, have never been with anyone else before. We are as comfortable as possible in our ‘natural skin’, and we have been since our wedding night. It’s so freeing to know that we are both wholly committed and we are the only people who know about our sex lives. We didn’t have any prior expectations; for instance, when we had sex for the first time, there was no one popping into my head or hers from my past sexual experienses because I hadn’t had any. During our honeymoon we were both completely open, honest, and experimental. We got married knowing we were there for the other person’s benefit, so our sex life started with question after question: “Does that feel good? Are you comfortable with this? Can we try something else?” Now we know what each other likes. And to all you saying “well, he is a guy...” so am I. And if I come first, well damn it, I’m gonna make sure my wife comes too because 1. Sex is best when I serve her needs, not mine. 2. I feel bad! I want her to come. I want her to be fulfilled.

If your man is not coming to bed with this perspective every time, I’m gonna say he’s having selfish sex, not selfless sex. I am so so so so happy my wife and I waited, so glad that we have a real commitment of marriage, and so thrilled that our sex together is the only sex we’ve ever known. We discover it together.

If you ask me, he sounds like he should've been a bit more patient after you said 'no'. If you do decide to, but then you change your mind when the time comes, don't let him pressure you into it.

well take charge and tellem its yalls nightta call the shots