Is it normal for this girl to be in love with my boyfriend for 2 years?

Do you think you could share him with her?

Ok I'm gonna hit another point that someone else brought up. Which is you clearly feel like this guy is responsible for your happiness. Thats where you are wrong, you CAN NOT have a successful relationship unless you learn to love yourself. If you can't be happy with yourself, what makes you think someone will be happy with you. It sounds to me like you're young but I hope you take what I say into consideration. I was once like that but now I'm happier than ever because I put myself first!

I think you need to sit down, first with your bf, then his friend, then all of you as a group and talk this out rationally. It's not fair for you to be wondering what's going on, nor is it right that he should have to break all ties with her, especially if he isnt into her in the same way.

How do you even know that she feels so strongly over him? Are you thinking because your so crazy in love with your bf that every other girl would share the same feelings? Did he tell you how in love she was with him? If so he's a tool and trying to make you jealous for some odd reason. If he's playing games like that he's starving for attention from you. Watch out this guy seems like a loser, and could very well cheat with her, I'm sure not many girls give him the time of the day, so the fact that she is "so in love" with him will make him really curious and probably not able to handle it. This is why I'm a firm believer that there's no sense in getting into serious relationships at a young age, kids don't know what they want and want to try new people. Sorry if that's harsh but we've all been here, it's such a non factor in the grand scheme of things.

I disagree with everybody here, especially randomjelly. What those two do is up to them as friends. He should definitely communicate to her that he doesn't have feelings for her, but that's no reason to just leave her lonely in the cold.

You need to trust your boyfriend that he decides to be with you because he loves you, not because you were first or because it's convenient. You even thinking that he would be better off with her is a statement against HIS judgement and HIS feelings. He is his own man, and can decide for himself. And he choses you(, pikachu).

If you feel insecure, then talk to him about it. Start from there. You just need to talk to him about it more. If he starts getting irritated with your jealousy then that's a problem.

Lucky boy

try to ignore her. after all, he has so far stayed with YOU, YOU are his girlfriend. which shows his love for YOU is that much stronger. he has known you longer and is actually in love with you. just because she has had a hard life and loves him, doesnt mean she should get him. and if he had said he really doesnt have those feelings for her, then you should be ok. just remember to keep your head up no matter what happens! (: good luck, hope all goes well!

This girl is a snake get rid of her and out of your boyfriend's life she will steal your boyfriend so stop the pity thing and view her as a threat not some pathetic love sick chick

I have been in love with someone else's boyfriend for 3 years now. Wsiting for him to dump her so I can be with him. Thing is he's never going to be with me (no matter how much I want it to happen). He's still with her end of story.

I mean no one else brought up lol

I feel like your boyfriend is just stirring the pot. If he didn't want to cause trouble, and make you feel uneasy about the situation, he would've never told you that he talks with this girl. And he would probably explain to her that he's taken and that he's sorry but he doesn't have the same feelings for her. And he'd end all communication with her. In the end it would help her, him and you.

I'll be the first to stand up and say, IT SUCKS LOVING SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T RETURN THE SAME FEELINGS, but honestly, it's life! It's gonna be really f-ing hard, but she needs to either learn to deal with it by accepting it and moving on with her life, or she can check herself into a mental institution, because that's where shes gonna end up obsessing over someone like that. She's making herself sick.

And I read that Mando said your boyfriend is manipulating you and that girl, Mando is right on. But I also think that what the girl is doing is a very sneaky form of manipulation too. She told your boyfriend that he's the only reason she goes there everyday for TWO years. That right there, sounds like she's trying to play it like she's a wimpy victim. Decipher it. "Oh boo hoo... you don't understand. I'm almost near death without you." That's what it sounds like. And I would totally know because "I" thats right, me. I've played that same card before. No, I never told anyone that I was dying without them, but I did act as though my world was crumbling around me. And no, I never ended up in a mental institution. But I was getting ridiculous relying on a guy the way I was. I was just 15 and I thought this one guy was my LIFE. That girl might have family troubles that are more hard then anyone else's might be, but she still can't depend so much on someone else like the way she's leaning on him. But he's no angel either. Look at how he's stringing her on. And look at what he's doing to you. Tell him to either cut all ties or you're gonna have some problems. And I don't mean to scare you, but a part of me believes he's gotta feel at least a little something for this girl.

randomjelly is spot on. If your boyfriend is aware this is hurting you, he should have done something by now. I hate when people try to have their cake and eat it too.

More like, he should imagine how this is making you feel rather than try to stroke his hero-peen.

just share the man :D no more problems and you will get a new sistah in the process

I kind of agree with randomjelly. He should at least wait until she gets over him before talking to her again. She needs to move on. I feel he is putting you in a stressful situation. I would care!

Because she has confessed this...your boyfriend needs to make the decision to cut ties with her.