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I'm a teacher and i'm already married. I think i'm in loved with my fellow teacher. is this normal? what should i do. pls help.
I think you should forget about this new teacher and focus on your current relationship. Things will constantly come up in your married life tempting you to stray, but marriage isn't "I'm going to marry you and be with you until I find someone else." You know that already though. Just don't let these hindering feelings for the other teacher grow and interfere.
Imagine how ur gna feel wen this rebound fling wears off and shes not interested anymore then how r u gna feel? More thank likely shes set herself a challenge to get u just make it clear ur not interested and are happily married and wish her all the best. Its a challebge for yourself to resist and whether u do or don't you'll learn more about urself and either will love urself 4 staying away or weak for giving in. Hope this helps..
You've said you would never leave ur wife and daughter so why would you wana do something so bad behind their back? Maybe shes after a rebound and for u the idea of a fling may excite u as u find her attractive but at the same time y wud u du that to the woman and daughter that u love? If u go ahead with it who knows how many different affairs that could lead to, ur gna risk losing ur family ova sumthin that will only bring a little amount of short time pleasure, you'll most likely look bak on it n hate urself for duin that to ur family how will u look ur wife and daughter in the face knowing ur not the great man they think u r, if u love them to death u wud stay away from this women and stay loyal to ur family, u sed u will never leav them so that says they are a huge part of u without them u wudnt be complete so dnt mess what u alredi have a beautiful family against a short term fling hopefully you'll se e that ur family mean more to u than anything. All the best :)
The work place is quite common but as your married you should keep ur distance u cud wreck so much more lives if u think wiv ur....
thank you evryone,
i am starting to avoid her now, it's very difficult though coz we work at the same roof. what happened is i feel lonely. i already lost weight, and it's been two nights already that i wake up 3:30 at dawn thinking of her. but i'm starting to avoid her now. trying to get back my focus to my work and family. i want you all to know that it's very very hard. (sorry for my bad english)
Sounds like u wanna du the dirty cuz ur sure no1 will know hu u r once your there so no chance of the wife finding out, if your wife was in your shoes how would u feel? And i question how religious this woman actually is ur going to a beach where you'll see her parading in her underwear so what do you thinks gonna happen? Wat makes u think its gonna be a 1 off and not an affair? I feel sorry 4 ur wife sounds like ur tempted enough to go n w.e happens happens
maybe it's a silly question. that vacation thing, is it ok to do it once then get away of her life for good? i'm am planning just that.
It's not okay. :/ I'm not sure if all your posts and things are real. Mayebe she won't find out, but you will always know. Once a cheater always a cheater, and that's exactly what you would be. Plus you will always see that woman again at work.. It wouldn't be just once and you know it..
Just be careful. If you tried something and it didnt work out it'd be difficult to see them everyday. Ugh.
i would never leave my wife, NEVER! i couldn't imagine what would happen to my wife if i leave her and what will be my daughter's future, leaving my family is out of the question, i can assure you that i am never leaving them... it's just that i falling for her, maybe because shes always asking for my help. just recently she asked me to go for a vacation on a beach resort very far from our place where for sure no one will know us. she is known to be a very good woman, very intelligent, and quiet religious. ( she just broke up with her boyfriend about 6 month ago ) is she just using me? this is crazy, i can't focus anymore.
Avoid her like the plague. Is your married life super bad? I bet you anything it's not all that terrible. Don't mess this up. Get away and stay away from that lady.. It's normal to have these thoughts and feelings. But to indulging and allowing them to grow is very bad.
if you're in love w/ another person other than your wife, you need to break it off w/ one or the other! I'm speaking from a very similar situation right now as my husband just left me for another woman, only what's worse in my situation is this other woman is his ex. it's been 2 months since he left & the pain isnt getting any less. you obviously started 2 develop feelings for this other woman, because your wife wasn't fullfilling those feelings for you,& you need to tell your wife no matter what about this or she'll find out 1 way or another, what your doing is gaving if not a physical affair, you're having an emotional affair & that's not right! you took vows. so if you plan to, or not plan to leave your wife you need to tell her about your feelings,& repair your marriage, or end it.
Is the 'love' reciprocated? Is it time for you to move on (from marriage - or workplace?)
Only you really know what to do here.
Don't be too hasty, and just go for the different and novel thing without thinking about it all properly.
If this fellow teacher and you have not acted yet, just be friends. If your feelings for him grow to be greater than your feelings for your husband, then you should act on it, because not even love is forbidden, but only has its consequences.