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so i knw this girl who does not date anyone because she feels as if she is not worthy to be in a relationship with any guy no matter who it is. Her feeling like this causes her to turn away any guy tht like her. she asked me i wasnt sure so IIN
No it's not normal. Tell her she'worthy enough to bring happiness and love to someone and she can expect the same back. Tell her to stop thinking like that.
Stop!Just stop thinking like that!
Are you serious?Who the hell do you think you are?Master of mind control?
Stop!Just stop!
Wait a minute let me analyze this throughly:
Tell her (order) She is worthy enough (Positive encouragement) To bring happiness and love to someone (Purpose for her) (as if happiness and love are something you can give to somebody like a present) and she can expect the same back(That's a wild assumption based on virtually nothing) and by the way the right word would have been:In return.She can expect the same thing in return.The question I would ask you defiantly as a response to that kind of thing would be:From who?
But since I am not her I'll just tell you this sort of argumentation,will just give her false expectations. And by the way:
Did she tell you: I don't feel worthy of dating anyone? Or it's just another of your so called brilliant assumptions? Maybe she is scared of dating somebody because all she got in return when she did has never been happiness nor love,but interest?Maybe she just doesn't wanna face possible unwanted consenquences that would inevitably alter her routine?Both the internal one and the external one? Because she doesn't know exactly what these relationships she could find herself involved in,would build up for?
Or maybe because she knows exactly what they would build up for,what she would find herself dealing with, cause she saw other people do it and that's not what she is looking for?
Or she is simply scared these guys would use her then kind of turn their backs on her the way most guys have done with all of her girlfriends?SOme guys can be quite intimidating while ttrying to get a chick to date them thinking that "self confidence" they display should make them more desirable for them...
SO maybe it's not her fault at all. Maybe the guys revolving around her are a bunch of assholes and she knows it all too well.
What do you think about that? Do you think I nailed the picture or what?
I know one person who admits to feeling like that and one person I suspect does. I think it's fear in both cases. I hate to do this, but I'm going to quote perhaps my favourite TV show in the history of all television:
Sometimes it seems like we're all living in some kind of prison. And the crime is how much we hate ourselves. It's good to get really dressed up once in a while. And admit the truth: that when you really look closely? People are so strange and so complicated that they're actually... beautiful. Possibly even me.