Is it normal for someone to make you feel good and sh*t at the same time?

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Doesn't it suck when its up to one person to make up your day or completely ruin it? I used to not understand how people let their lives depend on one person but I guess you have to truly experience it and thats where I am now. Its seriously a natural thing. His name pops out on my phone, I can move on with the rest of my day positively. If I don't hear from him, I feel down. Then I pretend to move on in a hopeful way and its working until I get a text from him, then I genuinely feel like I can move on and I realize, everything else was fake before. I love this guy I've been talking to. I love who he is, he's my type, we have things in common. Except, he makes me feel like utter sh*t. He makes me feel like I'm not good enough. He makes me feel like I'm under pressure to impress him. He doesn't do it on purpose like tells me I'm a piece of crap but there are things he does that makes me feel like a piece of crap. Then there are definite things he does that is the cherry on top. For example, he doesn't invite me to places with his friends as if he thinks I can't keep up. First it was all in my head then I found out that his best friend invited his gf when he told me the trip they took was full of people and it was just him and his bff going. So when I found out she was going I was like oh okay I see...He keeps hanging out with me though and I have had enough of observing and "going with the flow." Its time to speak up and ask "where the f*ck do we stand?" I used to just walk away from guys but thats cause I've never felt this way before. I really like him but why? if he makes me feel like sh*t? yet just being around his presence makes me satisfied and happy and I don't need anything else. Why?! Its crazy...its 50/50 happiness and sadness. Sometimes I ask other guys to do me some favors like if I need a ride or help with something when he can do them for me but I don't like bothering him. Its just something I don't want to put him through. He's special. I feel like if I end it with him its my loss. So many fish in the sea yet hes one in a million to me.

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  • mixwell
    10 years ago

    So because he wants to have seperate time with guy friends means that is treating you like shit? wow.... You should not let anyone dictate the outcome of YOUR day..

    As bugs mentioned also it sounds like you're too clingy and obsessive. Maybe you should hangout with your friends when he's with his instead of dwelling on it soo much...

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Maybe he thinks you're too clingy and obsessive.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    You are the one making yourself feel like shit, not him. YOU feel the need to impress him, you are the one who is clinging to this guy.

    There are better examples of people making you feel good, yet like shit, than a guy you obsessively cling to. So I think it is normal in general for people to do that, but in your case, I voted not normal.

    My friend and I went on a 12 mile hike Sunday and yes I was tired afterwards. We visited my grandma, and out of nowhere she says, "Yeah, judging by the way *my name* was acting after that hike, there was no way she could have kept up with me on my hike the day before." Ugh talk about not making someone feel good!

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  • EccentricWeird
    10 years ago

    Use carriage return.

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  • disthing
    10 years ago

    "IIN for someone to make you feel good and sh*t at the same time?"

    I thought you meant - Is it normal for someone to make you feel good, whilst they're on the toilet taking a dump.

    That's what this website has done to me.

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