Is it normal for someone to get your cell phone number without asking you?

This guy I know from university texted me out of the blue to ask me a question about am assignment. Now the thing is that I'm quite sure I never gave him my cellphone number. Ironically, if he had asked me for it I would have given it to him. He's gay so I know he wouldn't have stalked me or anything. So there is no reason why I wouldn't have given my cell phone number to him.
A few months later the same guy wanted to have my email address, again for something to do with university. Instead of asking me for it, he said "I'll send you an email then."
I asked him if he had my email address because I was sure he didn't. He said, "No." I then wrote down my email address for him.

I just don't understand why this guy didn't just ask me for my cell phone number and email address since he clearly wanted both.

Is his behaviour normal? What could be some possible reasons for his behaviour?

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38% Normal
Based on 34 votes (13 yes)
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  • Avant-Garde

    I used to do this when I was a kid. It never occurred to me that my behaviour was inappropriate and that I could have been making people uncomfortable. I was crossing boundaries. I assume that he got it from someone that has your number. Are there student directories at your school? At the school that a former friend went to, each student was given a student directory with every single student's phone number. I always felt like it was a bad idea.

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    • No, there are no student directories at my school. He only could have got the number from someone that has my number. I just find it strange for someone who is over the age of twenty to act this way. It certainly is pretty childish behaviour.

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  • Maybe he's a combination of shy/very involved in today's technologically centered world?
    What, with the social medias and chat sites nowadays, the concept of privacy doesn't occur to some people in the same way as it did to previous generations.
    Given my own personal experiences, I would probably feel creeped out by this sort of behaviour, but many people may find it normal.

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    • Now that I think about it he's certainly very into technology and social media, so what you're saying definitely makes a lot of sense.

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    Unfortunately, this is normal. I used to have a cellphone that people seemed to find out the number of without me giving it to them. Even after I showed I was annoyed with them they acted like they did nothing wrong. People these days are inconsiderate and seem to lack the ability to notice when they're being inconsiderate.

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    • Yup, there are just too many inconsiderate people out there nowadays.

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  • Ellenna

    Oh for goodness sake, ask him, not us, we don't know where he got your number or why!

    I'm amazed how many questions are asked on here by people who don't have the basic common sense to ask the person concerned rather than complete strangers. I'm not talking about questions of opinion, but questions of fact - pointless exercise!

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    • I'm pretty sure he got the number from a friend I gave my number to. That's really the only way he could have got it since there are no student directories or anything like that at our university. Anyway, I don't really care where he got my number from. I just wonder why he didn't ask me for it since I would have given it to him if he had. I don't care that he has my number, just wondering why he didn't ask me for it.

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      • Ellenna

        Then ask him why he didn't ask you for it!

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        • I guess I should have asked him at the time but now would be too late.

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          • Ellenna

            Yeah I guess so, but at least now if it happens again with someone else you'll be prepared and ask at the time eh?

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