Is it normal for someone to do this?

So, there's this lady who I thought was the perfect woman for me. I still think she is, and apparently she thought I was the perfect guy for her, so we agreed to meet up.

I thought the meet went reasonably well, but it ended very quickly, and she almost immediately blocked my number and social media after it ended, without warning, explanation or hesitation. I don't have a clue what I have done to freak her out, sure I may have cracked the odd wisecrack but it wasn't anything personal. But still, the fact of the matter is, she doesn't seem to want anything else to do with me anymore and I don't know what to do.

Have I fucked up, or is it more likely that she's a bit nuts?

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Comments ( 13 )
  • intrakitt

    Here's the bottom line: you're better off. While you're sitting there wondering if this one woman has ill feelings toward you, literally hundreds of women are passing you by.

    Look, you've already got the hard part down, which is having the social skills and desire to meet and move forward with a woman. Many lack these abilities. Your'e already a winner. Regardless of what anyone thinks. Even your mother.

    What you are doing is making yourself crazy by wondering what this woman is thinking, and you will never, ever know. Why wonder about one woman you dont' know very well? Move ON!!

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  • Ellenna

    Your mistake was in believing someone you met online was the "perfect woman" and the fact that she agreed to meet up with you didn't mean she believed you were "perfect". There are no perfect human beings.
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    What were the wisecracks you made: maybe that's what turned her off, but who knows?

    Keep your expectations realistic and you'll have fewer disappointments.

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  • LornaMae

    Don't! Rejection sucks but almost everyone has been through it. Online things may seem perfect but when you then meet in real life something might be really off and you can't even really tell what it is. It happens a lot, so don't hate yourself.

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    • Appareson

      If he's happy about hating himself it's fine.

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      • Let me rephrase that. I'm feeling very tender at the moment...

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        • LornaMae

          Of course you are, you have no idea what happened! It's still fine, though, we never know "why" anything happens!

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      • LornaMae

        Shoo, troll!

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  • loolyloly

    Most girls will know if the guy they meet is right for them seconds after meeting. This is nothing to worry about, if she feels that it's not working out between you two then she's most likely right. Guys can have these feelings too. Just think of a bad date you have had. It's most likely not anything you did or said, maybe you just didn't live up to her expectations.

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  • ACfireandiceDC

    Stuff happens. That's the shitty part of the dating world, both men and women have to deal with being ghosted all the time without any explanation. I've done it to women, and they've done it to me.

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  • TheOneSmartSwede

    She's probably a reat nuthouse

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  • sillygirl77

    You don't have enough information to know if you did something or if she has a screw lose.

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  • Boojum

    You could have screwed up, or she might have a few screws loose. It's also possible you have all the social skills of a bull walrus in the mating season, and she's as crazy as a crate full of rabid raccoons.

    Looly is right: sometimes women know very quickly that there's no point. If she had that opinion after one date, you would have been battling against that judgement constantly if she'd agreed to see you again, and it could have been a thoroughly unpleasant experience.

    Blocking you without any comment is kinda rude, but I think lots of women don't bother even trying to be polite these days. If they do try to let a guy down gently, that often either ends up with the spurned guy telling her he's fine with that because she's a worthless slut anyway, or him trying to explain away whatever was said or done that turned her off.

    If you have a female friend or two whom you trust to give you an an honest assessment, you could try running through what happened with them to see if they have any insight into where things went wrong.

    Alternatively, you could just chalk it up to experience, assume she was right in deciding you and her wouldn't work, and move on.

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