Is it normal for people to play with emotions like this?

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I'm a teenage girl...so yeah just making my voyage into the world of love. While all of you were celebrating the new year I was balling my eyes out. I usually don't care about guys, I don't go looking for love so falling in love with this guy was not normal for me...He lives far away and on that night I had a serious talk with him about our relationship status and although he said he doesn't want me to get hurt, he says he can't see something for us in the future the way I want it and did not avoid it when I asked him if he was just using me.

He was my first love and now I'm really emotional but what I really want to know is if it's normal for my emotions to be played with like this and how do I avoid it?

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  • pastor_of_muppets
    9 years ago

    Ag my honey, i'm so sorry about that..
    Waaay back when I first fell in love, it was with a girl who lived 1,200km away from me. We both knew we could probably never meet but we had (what felt like) a real relationship for nearly two years. We were made for each other in every conceivable way.. but we had to stop because we were smart enough to know that it wouldn't be good for us in the long run. We are still friends after all these years.

    Later in life I found myself in two other ("real life") relationships. The first one lasting 5 months and the second one lasting 4 years. Both ended bleh.

    And I kinda understand what you are going through... you built up this whole fairytale in your head of how a relationship should be and that you are gonna get it right the first time by finding your true love and being with him forever.

    It doesn't (mostly) work like that though.. you will get hurt.. and everything will suck.. but this is how you learn, bunny..
    You start to know what you want exactly and know which warning signs to look out for.

    Stay strong, okay?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      ***Hug***
      Thank you I needed that :)
      I told him I can't ever be just friends with him, just the thought of no future with him makes me burst into tears and when he knows this he says he hates himself but can't promise me anything because I'm so far away...And you are so accurate it feels uncanny to me...I did want a future so bad.
      Now that it's over I will be more careful who I give this heart to.

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      • pastor_of_muppets
        9 years ago

        You are a good person :) and someday you will make somebody very happy, I promise you. Just be careful not to end up being with someone who can't/don't meet you halfway.

        You'll be fine :) You'll see.. Just don't ever change..

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  • howaminotmyself
    9 years ago

    How did he play with your emotions exactly? It sounds like unrequited love. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. It doesn't sound like he was trying to manipulate you, just checking things out and decided a different path made more sense.

    Eventually you will forget about him as you meet more people and make more connections.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      He didn't decide anything if I had never asked about our future he would have gone on with this relationship, I just wish I asked him from the beginning. I felt like he played with me by making me feel special when really he had no plans for us.

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  • DaDoc
    9 years ago

    Yes. It not right, but it's pretty normal. We live in a world where people play with other's emotions. It's not good to be in a long distance relationship.They rarely work because relationship are built on being around the person you love, and being physical with each other. There's really isn't a way to avoid these situations because you can never tell what someone's intentions are. You just have to live and make smart decisions. Get to know a person before you decide to have sex with them. 9 times out of 10 it'll weed out the bad apples. Most people won't stick around if they don't really like you. Just know with heartbreak comes strength. Use this experience, learn from it, and don't make the same mistakes. Think about the warning signs you might have missed and apply them to future relationships. Ask men what they want before you get to know them that way you'll already know what to expect. Some men will lie, but you just have to keep trying until you succeed. Good luck, don't give up.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    9 years ago

    i think yall means to say yall were bawlin yalls eyes out

    ballin yalls eyes out kinda could mean somethin else

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      OK Mr... point taken LOL, can't edit it now though...

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