Is it normal for people to fake being friends so that they end up having sex?

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It is normal that the only friends I have want to have sex with me? A lot of them are males. Some I've been friends with for many years, some for only a few years, and some a few months. I never flirt with them or have given them any sign of interest, but at some point each has revealed that they want to be in a relationship with me or they flirt big time. I have one female friend who wants to have sex with me too. I'm starting to think she wouldn't be my friend if she wasn't sexually attracted to me. When I tell them that I am not interested in a relationship or sex, a lot of them stop talking to me. is it normal for guys to pretend to be a woman's friend only for the chance of sex?

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Based on 38 votes (27 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I have lots of female friends that I would be willing to have sex with but don't expect to either and wont be bothered if I never do. If a guy just expects sex he's not much of a friend. I think I'm a bit less sex driven than most people though.

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    • RoseIsabella
      9 years ago

      Tell it Bugs!

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    I've said it once I'll say it a thousand times. The only reason men are friends with women is the hope that one day they'll get to see them naked.

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    Of course all your heterosexual male friends want to bone you...it's very rare for a man to be friends with a woman he doesn't want to fuck, harsh but true...and I have lots of male friends, and I have had honest conversations about this with them MANY times.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      ...Well I guess I'm just different then...And now I sound like scene kid...

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Not to blow hot air up your kilt, but I think the reason your different is because of your model good looks. I'd be willing to bet there are lots of women and men who want to be your friend because they're attracted to you and want to shag you. It the nature of the human beast and many of the people who complain about how superficial the world is really do so only because they want to go out of their league. Most people aren't in your league so go out and get that modeling contract!
        ;-)

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        • [Old Memory]
          9 years ago

          You have all the right wordss, don't you? ;)

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      • CountessDouche
        9 years ago

        Nothing wrong with having real lady friends

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        • [Old Memory]
          9 years ago

          Meh, too many didn't work out too well.

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  • Flare94
    9 years ago

    This is perfectly normal. It's hard to find genuine friendship. It's doesn't always have to be sexual either. People will befriend people because of looks, money, social static you name it! The list goes on, and on. I would believe a majority of friendship are based off of superficial reasons. It's hard to find someone who genuinely wants to be with you for you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      This is the best way anyone could answer my question. Thank you so much for putting this in my head because now I don't have to take it so personally anymore. It is better off for me to be in my situation than to have a fake person in my life.

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      • Flare94
        9 years ago

        No problem. I just try to let people view things from many different perspectives, so they have the strongest possible personal view on the subject.

        I've seen so many HighSchool relationships start based off "I'm sexually attracted to you, and you're sexually attracted lets make it happen!" Then the couple doesn't work because they have no other common interest in one other besides sex.

        Then this makes future relationship harder for them, and their significant other. They either feel mental and physical ownership and attachment to their ex, or their new partner can't stand the fact some they love thinks of another the way they think of them!

        My best advice would be to date a lot of people never introduce sex to the relationship and who ever stays with you the longest despite no sex they probably genuinely want to be with you for you.

        (On a side note this is way I never understood why guys lie to females saying they're interested in a relationship, but they just want sex. Seem like a lot of wasted time and heart break just to have sex. I'm pretty sure there's a lot of women who want to have sex, and no relationship too. Like don't lie, and waste someone's time for superficial sexually lust DAMN!!!)

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    • januarycurse
      8 years ago

      +1

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  • Haddaway
    9 years ago

    Whatislove? nobody knows....

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    9 years ago

    Normal. In the past, both males and females have befriended me to try to get sex. I really don't get why though. I'm shy, I lack empathy/sympathy for others, I make pervy jokes, and I slouch sometimes. My coworkers have joked that my breasts have a magnetic field that pulls people in. Though the joke is starting to get stale now.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    You subconsciously project lots of sexuality. I wish I could do that.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    This post is why women love gay men so much!

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    • CountessDouche
      9 years ago

      LOL YES, didn't wanna say it!

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I wouldn't say it is normal to experience this based on how attractive you are, male or female. So, yeah. Would say so.

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    • RoseIsabella
      9 years ago

      It's not always easy being pretty.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    Wow, you picked some bad friends.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      They're not bad people. They just want to have sex, and I don't.

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  • funkedup
    9 years ago

    I don't think it's normal for *all* of your friends to want a sexual relationship with you. Do you really not have any platonic friends?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Every one of them has mentioned sex or has asked me about it. I even threatened 2 friends that I'd fart in front of them if they ever flirted with me. One of them stopped talking to me. I still talk to the other.

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