Is it normal for partner to obsess over your past

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An ex of mine delved deep into my past. At first I saw no problem with either of us giving a very brief relationship history, but he took it to a very weird level. He began asking me about specific sexual acts, how many times for each, and how many times with or without a condom. It didn't matter to him that these things were within long relationships. After asking me all of these things he would get mad. My past isn't really anything out of the ordinary. I've never been in a relationship for less than two years, never cheated, and was never a big fan of casual sex. He seemed very suspicious of me, and acted in ways that told me I should apologize for anything before even learning of his existence; yet I never once did this to him. He even tried to use a car as an example, because, fuck entropy and sentiency. I need to know how normal this is. I may not want to see the votes, but I need to see. Please give feedback also. What in the actual fudge is this crap.

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  • Tenderlovin
    9 years ago

    No...that's not normal? It's none of his business, unless you were cheating on him, and you clearly weren't. It sounds like he himself wasn't being completely honest with you?

    If he had no reason for not to trusting you, then the problem lies with him. Jealousy is a product of insecurity and guilt, him getting mad over these things and making you feel bad could stem from his own infidelity or lies about his past.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    No. He sounds very insecure and little off his rocker…. These are warning signs! A general interest in your partner's past is normal, but he's being completely ridiculous about it. From what you've written, you sound like you're a good person with morals when in relationships. Instead of being happy that he's found such a wonderful person, he's scrutinizing your past and treating you like a criminal. That's not okay.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    A reasonable question would be, "What sex acts have you enjoyed in the past that you would like to do with me?" But the weird questions he was asking indicate that he is a CREEP. Get rid of this guy.

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    I think it's normal to talk about one anothers past but he shouldn't make you feel sorry about what you did before you met him.
    Red flags.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Not normal, if it were me I would hopefully try to see these things as red flags. Jealous and possessive people act this way. Often times this can be a red flag that someone might even end up being abusive in some way.

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  • flawdagirl
    9 years ago

    no it's not normal, but if it makes you feel any better i had a similar experience with an ex boyfriend.

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  • Elvis
    8 years ago

    It is his business if youre married.
    There are to be no secrets in a marriage.
    He has a right to know before he puts a ring on your finger.
    If you have a past and a reputation , then you should have thought about it before you ruined your reputation.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Except that it says:

      "My past isn't really anything out of the ordinary. I've never been in a relationship for less than two years, never cheated, and was never a big fan of casual sex."

      Learn to read before polluting my topic.

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  • FJK_frm_AK25
    8 years ago

    Y the fuck wud u want a details of the past bfs anyway hella fuckin strange dude fa real

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  • FJK_frm_AK25
    8 years ago

    He sounds like a controlling lame.tread carefully

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  • donotmockme
    9 years ago

    I think he doesn't have as much of a sexual history as you and is upset to hear about what you've done because he wasn't there.

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    • Tenderlovin
      9 years ago

      Yo, you remind me soo much of a friend of mine. Which yeah is weird because it's just comments but I'm from ohio? Do you by chance stem from the buckeye state?

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      • donotmockme
        9 years ago

        What if I am from Ohio?

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        • Tenderlovin
          9 years ago

          There's no way..I'm from cincinnati. I know it's unlikely that you're the person you remind me of.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      He has quite a sexual history. He claimed he had trust issues because a previous girlfriend held an extraordinarily high amount of sexual partners from him and lied, but that still doesn't explain his manner of questioning. I'm rolling with Tender, Rose, and Green, so far.

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      • craze3
        9 years ago

        It's possible he may just have major trust issues and insecurity about himself. It doesn't necessarily mean that he's cheated. Maybe he just needs some time to get over it. Some people get stuck in a rut of jealousy and just need to be distracted long enough to get over it.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          That whole story of his was probably all a fabricated lie.

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    Maybe he was curios about any STDs you might have or have not. Just sayin'.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      That's called clinic papers. There's no way to find out that kind of information with these questions.

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      • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
        9 years ago

        Clinic papers won't tell him if you were in a German bukakki film.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          What does that have to do with STDs?

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