Is it normal for parents to still try to run their kids lives in college?

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I know some parents who still treat their children like they are in grade school when they are in college. They are constantly talking to them and telling them what to do (they say it is supportive). When their sons and daughters are in a play, or exhibit work, the parents have giant receptions and dinners like they did when their kids were playing soccer matches in Junior High. Shouldn't they gradually let their kids make their own decisions through high school, and be hands off in college?

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Based on 57 votes (26 yes)
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  • Cookie.Monster
    10 years ago

    Me happen to have photo of when me was little baby Cookie Monster. Aww, me so cute. But now, me bigger, ergo, me grew. Me make decision by myself, to eat cookie or not eat cookie. Me always give same answer, eat fuckin cookie. Parents are very proud

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    • SillyKitty55
      10 years ago

      i just posted the question and your answer on my facebook. I had share this hilariousity -ness to my friends!

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      • Cookie.Monster
        10 years ago

        Me on Facebook now? Me famous finally!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I still live with my parents, so my parents are pretty "in" my life but they know they can't control my actions like they did in high school. They give me advice, but otherwise let me generally do what i want. They let me pursue whatever academic goals i want too and don't pressure me. I think it's a pretty good way to parent.

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  • Tichi
    10 years ago

    My parents tried that.
    They like tried to get me to go for Environmental Science or something dumb like that but I thought it was boring so I went my own way and they were all like "whatever dude"

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  • Mr-Myrtos
    10 years ago

    I'm 36 and my son 16. I guess it will be difficult for me to discipline my feelings and emotions when it comes to that time.
    Let see. I guess we have to talk about it and both do have to make a effort.

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  • Sog
    10 years ago

    I think you will be hard pressed to find any parent that is so "hands off" that they won't even try to talk to their kids or tell them what to do - especially if they are the ones footing the bill.

    Honestly, I wish I had parents that were able to give me some kind of reasonable advice, because I often felt like I had no freaking idea what to do.

    By the time I was in college, my dad had passed away and my mom didn't have much sound guidance to offer because she lived such a sheltered lifestyle when she was my age.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Reasonable advice is one thing, if their son or daughter ask for it. But the "helicopter" parents have always run their kids lives. How are the kids going to learn to make decisions on their own, or make their own friends for that matter?

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  • wonderwizard123
    10 years ago

    my parent is a bit different... he was never there and now he wants to control me in college. I am already better than him and now he thinks he can run my life because he messed up his own. so idk

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    • Mister_Nobody
      10 years ago

      Very common for parents to push their children into doing what they always dreamed of. Very unfair and hard on the child, but it can sometimes be beneficial in the long run.

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