Is it normal for my straight buddy to check out my genitals in the lockeroom?

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My friend and I have known each other since we were 12 or 13 years old and in middle school. We're now in our late 30's. We've always been pretty close and is one of my best friends. He recent got out of the army and he and his wife & kids moved back to our home town. We've running together and have been hitting the gym together a few times a week before I head to work. So the other day after my work out done I headed to the shower to get ready and left him to finish. When I got out of the shower he was sitting by my locker. I was I'm towel only and about to get dressed. Now, for as long as we've been friends we have never seen each other naked,EVER. So I hesitated in dropping my towel. I'm not sure why really. I don't have issues with nudity and I'm naked in the lockeroom every other day. I though about turning around, but then realized how ridiculous that would be and I know he, of all people, wouldn't care or think twice. So as were small talking about whatever, I remove my towel and try my hair. As Im doing this I notice that he's starring directly at my crotch and not just a quick glance (as I think most guys do) but a long intense stare. Granted I was standing and he was sitting and all my glory was at his eye level. It didn't make feel uncomfortable or anything. In away it made feel like 'Well, now he's knows everything!' Lol!

So my question, is it normal for a life long friend to be curious about his buddy's body and was normal for him to stare as long as he did?

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  • Koda
    8 years ago

    There's always a chance he's interested in you, but more likely he was just curious. I understand that. I wanna know what everyone I know looks like naked.

    I think the reason that most guys just 'quickly glance' is because they think if they're caught it might turn into a big 'thing', when all they were was curious. With your friend, he knows you and trusts you, so maybe he figured he didn't have to look away really quickly. If it was me, I'd definitely avoid looking at all costs. I don't like those kind of awkward situations, I'd just have to stay curious. I don't know how many times someone's said to me "Why are you turning around? We're both guys. What's the big deal?" xD

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    • TRexTex
      8 years ago

      Yea, curious was pretty much the situation. He text me a couple of weeks ago asking me to grab a few drinks and shoot some pool with him. As alcohol tends to loosen the tongue for honest conversation, he started telling about how he and the wife had been arguing a lot and that lately they were not having much sex and that when they would, she wasn't being 'satisfied' and that he was having problems with erections. Now, like I said before, we're very comfortable talking about personal shit so this was normal conversation for us and we always expect and appreciate that of each other, never any bullshit. I also realized this was good time to discuss other related stuff like my above post topic. After discussing his over weight issue, Viagra as an option, sex toys, and other stuff...we moved onto the uncomfortable but relevant topic of penis size. He told me his 'erect' size and being the friend that I am, I told him that it was probably average or above and he shouldn't worry about it, I mean he has 4 kids from 2 women. His size must be fine.

      So hear's where it gets interesting....he said he wished he were 'larger', I said yea, no shit, I think most guys wish they were larger, myself included. He looks at me and laughs and says 'No, dude I saw your dick that day in the lockerroom, and that shits pretty big. It's bigger than mine'. I was surprised that he brought that up in conversation and more so that he was honest about looking at it that day. He looked at me and then looked down like he was thinking 'Fuck! maybe I shouldn't have said that'. I didn't know what to say but I knew I had to reassure him so I just said something like 'Seriously man? That's cool, thanks man, I appreciate you thinking so'. Then he says 'Don't you fucken tell anybody I said that you asshole!! I don't care if we're friends, I'll kick your ass.' Lol! I reassured him that I wouldn't. I told him that I did notice him glancing at it 'for awhile' that day too and I kind of wondered what was about. He said 'Sorry bro, I hope I didn't make you fell uncomfortable. I left the gym hoping you hadn't noticed me looking, but of course you did. I'd never seen you naked before and so...honestly...I know why, but when you removed your towel, I couldn't help but look. It was just curiosity. If I looked too long, it because it was bigger than I expected and cuz you're uncircumcised and I guess I knew you wouldn't care or get bent out of shape over me looking.' I told him he was right, I wasn't bothered and that I always appreciate his frienship and honesty. If it had been some random guy in the lockerroom 'staring' I would have been a little uncomfortable and probably turned away...and I told him there was a part of me that thought, 'Let him, I got nothing to hide from him anyway. He went on to talk about how's he's been feeling inadequate in bed with his wife and him seeing 'me' didn't help him to feel better about himself. CRAP.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    I think it's much more interesting how much you took notice of what was probably just a casual glance, to him.

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    • TRexTex
      8 years ago

      Yea, I took notice. Mostly because it was a 'first' in our friendship. We've known each other for a long ass time and been there to support each other for just about everything, middle school, H.S., partiyng till we wake up in the drunk tank, marriages, kids, divorces, funerals, laughed, cried, blah, blah,...you name it. And we have always been open and honest with eachother about everything.....he's my best bud, my brother. So, yea, it caught me off guard when I realized that I was gonna dry myself off with him sitting next to me....as we have never seen each other naked. If it had been a stranger next to me I wouldn't have thought anything about it as it was a stranger and I give a crap, but I also don't talk to the strangers in the lockeroom. My friend and I were talking as I dried off and his eyes went straight to my penis. Hummmm.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        You are still making it sound more like YOUR transference than his intentions. What would YOU have liked to happen after this 'glance'?

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  • Username195
    6 years ago

    The first time I saw my friends naked and they saw me naked we kept taking multiple glances

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  • VirgilManly
    8 years ago

    Maybe you reminded him he needed to pick up some bratwurst on the way home.

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  • gloryholeflasher
    8 years ago

    Maybe it means nothing, but if I was him waiting for you to come back from the shower I would think it's just common courtesy to be at your level (standing) and giving you a few feet of space to drop your towel and get dressed, UNLESS he's interested in you sexually.
    Guys often say smart ass things like, "while you're down there you can blow me if you want", and maybe he was hoping you would issue such a challenge to him. Being bi myself I would sit right where your naked body was going to be standing in hopes of ANYTHING encouraging being said or done. If I wasn't interested I would probably act homophobic and be sure to maintain a comfortable space between us. It could be that nudity is no more significant to him than it is to you and maybe he was staring absentmindedly while thinking of something else entirely.
    If I was you I might bring it up for discussion. Say something like, "it was a little embarrassing with you staring at my dick like that because I've always been self conscious about how it looks being cut (or uncut) and always thought it would look better the other way". That should elicit some comments from him and then you have a dialogue going. Good luck!

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    • TRexTex
      8 years ago

      Ha! I know he's not into me or any guy sexually. Never has he shown any inclination that he maybe gay or bi or even curious, and we're pretty fucken open with each other. He's always been into women. So I'm pretty sure we would know by now. But, I do think talking about it is important. Keep reading.

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