Is it normal for my husband to be afraid of his adult daughter from his ex

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I've been married 7 years. My husband lies to his 29 year daughter when we go on vacation or make new purchases. He asks for her permission on remodeling projects at the house. We live in the house she grew up in and its been paid off for years. I have my own grown up children and have never had to cover anything up to them. Am I being too sensitive? I believe he is afraid of her.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    That is definitely odd behavior. I think if I were you, I would want an explanation. If you get one, please let us know, because I can't think of any rational reason for this behavior.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    The lying thing seems weird.
    The remodeling thing could be because he wants her to inherit the house and doesn't want to invest in something she would change back.

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    • RoseIsabella
      9 years ago

      That's just what I was thinking!
      ;-)
      I love how discerning you are about your response to this post.

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  • TareBear20
    9 years ago

    It sounds to me that his daughters opinion on the house takes priority over yours. Not a big issue that can't be discussed at dinner time. This is no reason to leave your marriage, though.

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  • Itsalwayssomethin
    9 years ago

    I know. It's baffling to me. Honestly I've tried to look at it from all sides and not just jump to resenting her. As a result, I now resent him and unless I can get a reasonable explanation, I'm considering leaving the relationship. The way it sits now, it's not fair and life is too short. Thanks for the reply.

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  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    Sorry, but I can't think of any rational explanation for his behavior, which is seriously weird.

    Why not show him these posts?

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    • Itsalwayssomethin
      9 years ago

      That's a great idea. Thank you.

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      • Ellenna
        9 years ago

        Please please please let us know if it works! Far too many interesting unfinished stories on this site, drives me nuts

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  • Itsalwayssomethin
    9 years ago

    I've asked him and he says he doesn't understand her perspective but then does nothing to try and stop the problem or find a happy medium. She has her own family and hasn't lived at home since she was 17. I just feel like I'm living in a marriage between he and his daughter. I've always felt marriage should be 50/50 or at least alittle more balanced than what I have now. I feel like a visitor in the house we supposedly share. Just trying to see if I'm having a big pity party for myself.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    That's bizarre. You should ask him for an explanation.

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