Is it normal for my dad to take my social security money?

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So I am eighteen, and I have moved out of my home. My dad was really being too controlling and being verbally abusive. My mom passed away about six years ago from cancer. So Dad got the social security benefits. And I was getting them. When I turned 18, I was still getting it because I was still in highschool, finishing my senior year. When I turned 18, He couldn't cash the benefits into his account anymore. So then he made me give him the ss benefits. Since the money is mine-even though he claims its rightfully his, I have to give him the money. Even though the check is in my name. Plus he claims its to help take care of me, even though he has enough money to buy three houses ( regular home, a beach house, and a ski house, ) and also join a private golf club and also to go golfing in Ireland every summer.

So basically what I am asking, is it normal for him to bully and threaten me into giving him my social security check? (I currently am living with a friend, and have gotten myself a phone plan and is in the process of getting myself health insurance.)

and is it legal for him to do that? if you can answer, please comment with your thoughts

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    If the check is written out to you, then he's stealing.

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    • funlovingbitch
      7 years ago

      Just text a friend who works for benefits agency.if payment is made out to you and he is taking it fro. You without consent its stealing and receiving benefits he is not legally entitled to my friend suggested to to social services who send payment and they will sort it out

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      • Chinesechick98
        7 years ago

        Thank you for your advice.

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    • The_creep_is_still_here
      7 years ago

      Another way to think of this is a rent payment. If he is receiving liberal access to both a beach home, a ski home, and guest privileges at a golf course then it could be a bargain for the price. If not, have the delivery address changed for mailing the check. Or, have it deposited into his own bank account.

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      • RoseIsabella
        7 years ago

        It's still stealing, because in the case of rent OP's father ought to request rent payment and then OP would pay it just like anyone else. Taking a check that's written out to someone else is considered stealing regardless of who takes it. Last time I checked landlords don't just take tenants' paychecks that said tenants receive from their employers, but rather they receive check payments that tenants willingly write on their own bank accounts. Also there is the small matter of a lease. Any way I see it OP's father a thief!

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        • Ellenna
          7 years ago

          Nothing to do with leases and tenants! He's bullying her into letting him take her rightful government benefits

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          • RoseIsabella
            7 years ago

            Yes, I think the Dad is a jerk and a thief! I was merely trying to point out that the Creep's assertion about rent is incorrect. I don't think OP owes the greedy father a damn thing of course.

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        • The_creep_is_lurking
          7 years ago

          Except the OP says, "When I turned 18, He couldn't cash the benefits into his account anymore. So then he made me give him the ss benefits." This would imply that the Dad demands the OP endorse the check or give him cash in return for the benefits the Dad is providing. There is a conditional precedent for the legal issues here.

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          • RoseIsabella
            7 years ago

            OP just needs to take care of handling the money his or herself. I think the father is greedy, because my folks have never charged me rent, and nor would I ever charge a child of mine rent the father seems rather opportunistic.

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        WHAT? So you think it's ok for a wealthy father to coerce his child into paying benefits over to him?

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    Now that you're not living with him, why not have the cheques sent to your new address? This shouldn't be hard to organise.

    What you do about the fact that he's extorted money from you is up to you: initially I'd be talking to the government department that pays the benefits, because what he's been doing is illegal.

    Good on you for getting away from him, that must've taken some courage and guts.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    7 years ago

    tell him to go fuck hisself

    yall could also (dependin on where yall live) record him demandin yalls money and if yalls sly enough to git him to admit the whole thang then its textbook extortion

    plus if yall plays it right a good lawyerd flay his rich ass alive in court

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  • funlovingbitch
    7 years ago

    Not being funny if he lived in England he would not be entitled to any money as he owns more than 1 property and he must have other income to by property I would report him to social services

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    • Chinesechick98
      7 years ago

      Thank you, I wasn't sure what I should do. But this helps.

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  • rltg4711
    7 years ago

    Problem solved ... move out and get a job. You may find this hard to believe but you are putting your hand in someone elses pocket and takingn money from them. You are stealing from the hard working people that go to work and pay tax. Their tax and their tax alone pays money into your bank account, for doing absolutely nothing. Governments do no pay you directly because they have no real money of their own. The money comes from real individfualy, real husband and wives that go to work each and ever day and work their arses off in ordr to pay the family bills and put food on the table. Then they are taxed and that tax is deposited into your bank account ............ for doing absolutely nothing. Stop complaining and go get a real job.

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    • vaas
      7 years ago

      can you fucking read or are you blind and stupid? in the post the person states she is living with a friend, not at her dads house.

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      • rltg4711
        7 years ago

        Yep!I read that bit but his is still relying on welfare. Welfare paid to him by teh government. Tke note of this .... The Government do not have money of their own, to pay him. Such moiney comes from the tax payers, which means it comes from those that go to work five or six day a week and pay tax so the lazy bastards that don't go to work, get a free income from doing absolutely nothing.

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        • vaas
          7 years ago

          i agree, unless the person has a genuine disability or sickness that prevents them from working and earning their own money.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      That's one of the stupidest posts I've seen on IIN and that's saying a lot. She HAS moved out and HE is taking money from HER. She's not stealing anything, she's being bullied into giving him her rightful government benefits.

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    • Chinesechick98
      7 years ago

      Alrighty, Thank you for your advice.

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