Is it normal for my dad to hurt me..

me and my dad are very close, but he is an alcoholic, and he refuses to believe it. and when i was 14 we went to an air show the day after my dog died, and he got drunk. as we were leaving he kept yelling at me and saying stuff. at that time i got sick of all his bull shit and started walking ahead and ignored him when he was yelling at me. but i eventually turned around and he started telling me how he never wants to see me and he hates me. i took off running back to the car and i wouldnt talk to anyone. he finally caught up and started yelling at me and grabbing me and it hurted really bad and i started screaming and my cousin had to run over and pull him off of me and i was crying. then when we got home i was in my room on the phone with my mom to come get me and he came in and started pushing me, slamming me in to the wall and grabbing me and stuff which hurt like hell. then when my mom was there he slammed me into the wall and told me he didnt care about me, he hates me, and all this other stuff. about a week later he apologized. and i forgave him. but every time i think about that day i get really emotional and burst into tears. i have told him that i dont like it when he drinks but he says he wont stop. is it normal that i still get very emotional about that incident? i dont know how to get over it though...any advice is appreciated..

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Comments ( 17 )
  • Faceless

    Spike his alcohol with laxitives. After the 6th time of shitting himself he'll then have a moment of clarity.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    if you're still a minor contact CPS.

    if you're an adult contact a therapist

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  • crimson_mamba

    See thats what makes it so difficult. That it was your own father who treated you that way, someone you are supposed to look up to and someone who is supposed to care about you and treat you as his son/daughter. It is an abusive relationship and it is not normal, by that i mean unacceptable. I know that it is easier said than done trust me i have been there. My brother still is a meth head and i have been through hell trying to help him and being subject to his abuse. And i still burst into tears to this day about a particular incident.

    Talk to someone about it; Try to get him help. Have an intervention from a professional. See what can be done about getting him out of his alcoholism. Try this first. If this does not work, then you will just have to accept that some people will never change, and move on away from that abusive relationship, it will be hard to accept, but thats life.

    Let me know how it goes

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  • lufa

    you dad sounds like a major loser and a shithead. One day when he gets sober, he'll realize all the people that really matter have left him.

    my dad was a scumbag and while he wasn't physically abusive (lucky for him or I'd be seeking revenge when I got older), he did make some major decisions that caused me to suffer in my life.

    anyways get over your love for your dad, just see him as another flawed person in the world who's crossed that sacred line with you-by physically harming you.

    When I had fights with my dad, sometimes we'd go without talking for a couple of years.

    Only as I got older and he mellowed down a bit could I be friends with him. His scumbag side comes out every so often, but it's at a tolerable level.

    Just learn to be your own person without needing him for anything and then you'll be able to have an arms-length relationship with him if you wanted.

    But the way your dad abused you like that, esp after your dog died, I probably wouldn't even call him on xmas. Some people are just dirt and you can live without them.

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  • julianna(;

    Seek for help.. Go to some conciling sessions or to a preist in a nearby church.. Or go to someone who you have trust upon. Tell them what's going on & they'll gladly help you move on from that terrifing day. I would still be shaky & crying .

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    • youfucktardis

      A PREIST...

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    • chewy

      Hello

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  • InvadingPotatoLeader

    I agree with snowyd.

    Now seriously now i don't think your father deserves you.
    You never put your hands on a child, if you can't control yourself when drunk; don't drink.
    Even if he only grabbed you and pushed you it's still too much, i wouldn't even yell at my kids if i had any..

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  • snowyd

    I agree with faceless.

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  • Avant-Garde

    I agree with Shackleford96.

    Regardless, if he's an alcoholic or not, he shouldn't be forgiven.
    He abused you and that's never right regardless of a person's state.
    Try to get as far away from him as possible. He's unhealthy to be around...
    Talk to a counselor, friend or even a therapist.

    Can't you live with another relative besides him?

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  • zchristian

    I think i have seen to many trolls to know whats real and whats not anymore...

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    • Shackleford96

      I don't think this story was fake if that helps.

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  • imamonster12600

    stay away from him and tell him your out of his life until
    he quits

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  • godly

    First of all laugh like a manic wait till he is asleep get white bleach and nail polish remover mix it up don't breath this chemical in now take a rag put it on his face/nose hold it there for 15 sec then drag to the shower drain blood drag to basement or other dark place remove bones and organs grind up bones and burn organs and other flesh/skin/ect.. buries bones in woods the other left overs some where else simple... Or tell your teacher

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  • Shackleford96

    No, it is not normal for your dad to abuse you. Talk to a counselor at school or a close friend if possible.

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  • Easy chop off his head and wear it as a hat, you need to do this.

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  • Yes. Sometimes we hurt the ones we love the most-and if that happens to be you then that's life. Man up and take it on the chin for the old man and maybe one day you'll follow in his footsteps!

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