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I've just had a bad date that was basically over before it even started. I now don't even want to date anymore because it hurts so bad.
It was a little strange that she didn't pick up on my..Blah-ness towards her and wanting to just get the evening done. When she started that opera stuff in my car, I really thought..Oh, no..We're not doing this.
Yep, during my ex's heavy drinking days, it was always "c'mon, one more" from her. I'd had it that night, we got into it, and she said what she did. I calmly got up, coat on, threw cash on the bar for the bartender, Megan, and walked the 40-odd minutes home. Had my own keys with me anyway, so was fine. Also think my leaving sent a message to the staff that she/ex had a real drinking problem if her husband was willing to walk home.
Bad dates can happen. Dont let this date ruin your chances with someone else though! Theres so many people out there, I doubt the same bad date would happen again.
Hopefully, you can learn from this experience instead.
TOTALLY NORMAL!!!!!!! My confidence is so bad that it shatters just after one wrong look. ~.~
Don't let it shatter your confidence. Bad dates happen. I went out with a nice-enough but we had zero in common woman one night, and from about the first ten minutes, I thought..Get me out of here. Ended up spending a few hours, and 80 bucks on dinner and drinks, all the while thinking, this is awful, get her home so I can still have some time to myself.
Which is exactly what I did. Even on the way back to her apartment, I chanced a few red lights just to go faster and end this. Knew it was a bad date, but I didn't stress over it or let it ruin my confidence. Bad dates happen. Just have to get through them and move on.
Very old-school gentlemanly of you to take her home - even if you risked her life and limb while doing so. I would have paid my half of the restaurant bill plus the tip, and left her to her own devices.
Would have been funny if she was so oblivious that she thought you were running red lights because you were so keen to get her alone, and then you pull up outside her place, reach across to open her door and say goodnight.
I figured I at least had to get her home, but then..That was it. No going inside, no sit for a few, and certainly no sex. I wanted the entire evening done. She was oblivious, as she was singing opera in my car, and saying "This is going to be so much fun being with you"..As my brain said, uh, no it isn't, this won't happen again.
I only chanced..Not ran, two red lights. Really only one that was bad.
Funny about leaving and paying half the bill. I had one night with my now-ex wife where we were arguing at our regular place, she said "Why don't you just walk home", b/c she wanted more drinks, and I called her bluff. Stood up, put my coat on, threw $20 on the bar, and walked home. Left her there.
Seriously, it's kinda tragic that she was so enthusiastic and into you, while you were getting zilch. It's kinda odd, too, since women are generally pretty good at picking up subtle signals.
I like how you handled your ex. I remember doing the same in the now far-distant past. She's an ex too: gone, and never once lamented.