Is it normal for my boyfriend to do this to me?

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So my boyfriend and i decided to have a movie marathon and what better way to do it than to incase me in ductape. Well the first 6 hours of it were fine, we watched 2 movies, made out ect bla bla bla. After the second movie I told my bf that I couldn't feel my right foot at all. When i shifted my body as a whole, i felt really sharp pins and needles and then a little bit after, nothing. First he went to go poke it to see if it really was numb, and then felt that it was really cold but instead of being the good person that ive known him to be, he ignored the signs and my complaints and went to go put in the third movie. Furious now, I started to yell at him for ignoring the signs that something was wrong. Still instead of removing the tape, he produced a ball gag and proceeded to shut me up. At that point i kinda gave up to the fact that I was gonna get out anytime soon. Now quite some time later, I still wont talk to him and my foot is still asleep... Is it normal of him to do this? Should I go to the hospital?

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7% Normal

Based on 57 votes (4 yes)

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modernism

9 years ago

Get a new boyfriend. That seems really aggressive and might be a bad sign about him. I'd take that as a red flag and take the chance to gtfo now.

If he can't even show any concern to you yelling at him to let you go, then he seems really controlling and apathetic - neither of which are good traits.

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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

How did you get the sticky residue from the duct tape off?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Baby oil/ cuticle oil. In this case it was almost like taking an oil bath...
  
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Cheese123

9 years ago

Sounds like he doesn't care about you...sorry...

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Arm0se

9 years ago

You went to a movie marathon wrapped up in duck tape? Wtf? I know if I were at the movies and saw someone wrapped up yelling at someone else to let them go I'd call the cops thinking it was a damn kidnapping.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Why yes, yes I did. Would you like to know where it was held? Ill give you a clue. It starts with my and ends with apartment :P
  
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(s)aint

9 years ago

First of all: Some dominance is nice, but all good Dom's should put the safety of the Sub first. He should not tie you up in a way that causes your limbs to numb.

Always have a safe-word if you are with someone who cannot see or feel that the line is about to be crossed. Do not play these games with people who cannot put your safety first.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  But in this case, having a safe word or signal would do me no good since i told him something was wrong and he ignored it
  
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  - (s)aint
    
    9 years ago
    
    Exactly. He is not a good Dominant and I would even go as far as calling it abuse.
    
    Is your foot still asleep? how long has it been?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      Im going on 3 days. It feels like im walking on nothing...
      
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      - NeuroNeptunian
        
        9 years ago
        
        Saint is correct and you really need to see a doctor because you've either got nerve damage or necrotic tissue that could cause a blood clot that can end you.
        
        I'd break up with him and consider criminal charges because this isn't normal. This is abuse. BDSM is all about comfort for your partner and the safe word is to be treated as law. That's the difference between BDSM and abuse.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        9 years ago
        
        There's only one upside to this whole thing. I can now comfortable shove my whole foot up his ass...
        
        My friend is coming to get me so I dont have to walk all the way there (which was my first plan)
        
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      - (s)aint
        
        9 years ago
        
        Holy shit dude, go see a doctor NOW. Blood should have rushed back to your feet within a few minutes if everything had been all right ... :/
        
        As Neptunian said, what he has done to you is not kinky BDSM- it is abuse.
        
        I love pain and humiliation myself but you can tell that my playmates have cared for me because they take my health into account.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        9 years ago
        
        Ive been waiting in The ER for a bit now... I highly doubt it will be good but it's all good now
        
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ALESTORM

9 years ago

Um wow this ones abit out of my league, red flag leave him

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snowyshadow

9 years ago

Do ya'll have a safe word? It sounds like an unhealthy relationship, but ill give him the benefit of the doubt. If you two are doing bondage type stuff, you need to have a conversation about when stop means stop.

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sillygirl77

9 years ago

If this is real, call the police and put charges against him for him imprisoning you when you asked him to let you go. Also, if this is real get help please... there's no nice way to say this, but if you have to ask if this is normal, there is something wrong with you.

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Avi

9 years ago

It's not normal to do that.I would have cracked his head and ignored his screams it he would have done that to me,but then I would have helped him in order to see that he's wrong in his actions.
Hope your leg is ok now.If not,go see a doctor.

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