Is it normal for my boyfriend to cry if we do anything more than kissing?

he might have been sexually abused as a child and is scared and has never dealt with it, i had a boyfriend like that. i'm 100% sure it has nothing to do with you, thats a mistake we all make. and you're right, you shouldnthave to deal with that sort of baggage, no one should. i think its time for you to talk to him about it and say look, it's been two years, if you cant tell me whats wrong or attempt to improve yourself, i need to do whats right for me and leave. dont feel guilty because its perfectly ok to do the right thing and take care of yourself.

I had a friend who was just like that. And like thc123 said, he was sexually abused as a child. He confided in me that every time he tried to be intimate with a girl all those memories and emotions that he tries so hard to hide come back. He can't help but cry. I think he just needs time, but how much time differs with each person. I definitively wouldn't try to force him into anything if he's not comfortable.

When situations like this happen, people always think it's their fault. But whether child abuse is the case with him or not, there are obviously greater things at play it. I'm sure it's not your fault. You really should have a serious conversation about it. Tell him that it's been long enough and that you deserve to know what's going on. But son't pressure him to tell you. Let him know that you're there for him to matter what. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck =]

when people break a horse they kind of tie it to a tree and let it thrash around until its will is broken. you could grab his penis and hold on until he gives up and stops screaming. then you could ride him to town. he will thank you later.

Maybe he is gay?

sounds like you're too young to have a sexual relationship

I think he is gay. Tell him straight out if you arent gonna tell me why then im going to find a man not a insecure boy. If he has any love for you he wont let you go.

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Its possible he was abused and/or forced to repress any sort of sexual feelings when he was younger. He may have come from a deeply religious or abusive family, and was possibly punished and made to feel deeply ashamed if he was caught masturbating or having any lustful thoughts, whether straight or gay (possibly moreso if there were any gay thoughts or feelings).He must feel a lot of shame or fear to even have those sort of feelings. It is possible he was even ridiculed or abused for having those feelings. He may been forced to repress his feelings, and associate them with sin and/or punishment, and he cries cause hes deeply scared and confused, a part of him knows its normal to have sex in a relationship, but another part says its wrong to do this. the more he tries to go on with it, the more those fears and sense of guilt appear.

In short, he wants to go all the way, but he cant cause he was taught to feel ashamed and bad for wanting to.

Its very difficuly to undo that kind of damage, but if you can, talk to him, be supportive and ask him about his past. If this doesnt help, maybe seek professional therapy. Be supportive either way.

Its possible that something else my be making it hard for him to have sex, but its most likely he is ashamed to have sex.

Best of luck to the both of you, and sorry this is so long :)
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Maybe he has AIDS and doesn't want to give it to you.

Id streight out dump him he is not ready for a relationship that is ovbious even if he doesnt like it their is no reason to cry DUMP HIM HE IS NO GOOD FOR YOU .

"He makes me feel like a villian attempting to steal a young girl's virginity."

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Somehow this sounds like your guy may have been sexuallly abused in the past. My reasoning? Scared of sex, plus it's hard to talk about. It's bad to pressure him, but if it's been 2 years... Plus that might not be it :P Try "If you don't tell me, i'll just assume your gay"

If my memory serves me well, I'm pretty sure I read a story exactly like this months ago lol.

All I've got to say is, peck him on the other lips and he won't be crying, lol.

I'm really sorry. I'd say help him but if he won't let you help him you should break up with him and support him as a friend.

I think you're a good person. But I don't know how you can help a person that won't accept it.

It definitely isn't you. No amount of bad breath or ugliness would make a guy actually break down and cry; I'm sure you are neither.

This is actually really sad. Keep trying to get him to talk about it, but don't be too forceful. It seems like he has some serious issues. If his family are approachable, you could try asking them for some help, maybe ask if he has any sort of history that could leave him feeling like that. I'm betting there is a reason why he is like that which he is hiding and needs to be confronted. I'm not sure how appropriate that advice is in your scenario, but it can't hurt to try.

You are not a bad person, you are not disgusting. You are a good person because you are trying to help him; he is just confused. If all this fails, you might have to leave him. It isn't fair on you to be with him if you are unhappy, but this should be a last resort. Try to help him first.

That is not normal. Sounds like he's not ready for intimacy yet. If thats a dealbreaker for you then you need to let him know and move on.