Is it normal for my boyfriend to always say yes to his friend?

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So, I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. I'm not sure if that's irrelevant. Anyway, he's always been a sickly child and I understand it when he's not feeling well. His parents even get upset with him for being sick all the time, and feel he should be used to it by now. I know guys need to have their boy time to hang out and play games, but when a guy's sick and has been promising their girlfriend she can come over when he feels better, don't you think the guy time could wait a day? He does this to me all the time. He's asked me to come over and then tells me he doesn't feel well. Then 3 hours later, ask me if his friend can come over. (He likes to ask me. I think it's cute.)When I asked how he's feeling, he still says he's not feeling well but that he hasn't seen his friend in a while when he sees him more than me. I haven't seen him in 3 weeks, but I'm not upset that he's sick. I tell him I'm worrying about him and let him know I'm here. What upsets me is he's promised me I can see him when he gets better but then says yes to his friend coming over when he's already seen him like 5 times over these 3 weeks. It seems like he's always saying yes to his friend to come over but almost always no to me. I understand that his parents play a big part and have to be home and such but I think it'd be more fair if he just reschedules. What do you guys think? Am I being too petty with this?

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  • Somesortofname
    9 years ago

    Tell him how you feel. I had a recent relationship that ended in part of my girlfriend at the time never opened up, even when I asked her specifically certain questions of what was bothering her or "let me help" etc. Just be prepared that he may not open up or respond the way you would want him to. I know sometimes it can be hard, I've been there; you still have to take care if yourself. Don't let it drive you insane.

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    • Bluedinodaisies
      9 years ago

      Thing is, I've tried and I guess I do come off as sounding jealous because he gets upset at me and makes it sound like he always disappoints me and is always the "bad guy."

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  • ZP21
    9 years ago

    honestly a lot of girls are work. in a relationship there is a lot of responsibility for guys if their girlfriend is one thats big on attention and stuff. so im my opinion it makes sense why hes fine with his homie to come over and just kick it rather than feeling like shit and also being expected to be very affectionate. you girls may say you dont care if you get attention because he is sick and doesnt feel good but you and i both know that even though he feels like shit you still want him to give you attention. and from personal experience with this, feeling sick and shitty (i get sick a lot too) and trying to please your girlfriend, is very tiring, hard, and makes you feel even more shitty when sick. ive gone through this exact thing before with my girlfriend and honestly my advice is gather up some of HIS favorite movies, icecream, and whatever else he likes and design a day of sitting in his house with you giving him the attention and you expecting very little from him. or straight up show up and be like hey teach me to play video games. guys love video games, and him teaching you and helping you creates him giving you the desired attention girls want. or go over and give him head and a bunch of stuff, make him cum and he will be very very well and over his sickness very soon trust me. positive vibes=easier and less stressful healing.

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    • Bluedinodaisies
      9 years ago

      Thank you so much for your honesty. I am a lot of work, but it's because he spoils me which is why I have gotten this way XD But can you answer another Q of mine? I've tried spoiling him, but I'm thinking maybe his likes and my likes are completely different. I've tried playing video games him and he got excited at first because I'm his first girlfriend who will actually try it and he's not into it anymore. I'll ask if he wants to and he says "Maybe later." and it never happens. I've tried asking what he wants to do and he never wants to decide. He doesn't like tv or movies. I'm not really sure how to spoil him, honestly. Plus, his parents still continue to check on us in his room...soo few incidents have happened where we were almost caught doing sexual stuff XD But my Q is what else could I possibly do to spoil him? o:

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Ask him why you cant come visit while he is sick but don't make yourself sound jealous of his friend.
    Say something like "can I come see you even though you're not feeling good, I just like spending time with you" but do not bring up his friend in the conversation because it will come off as jealous and controlling.

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    • Bluedinodaisies
      9 years ago

      I'll try that next time :) Thank you.

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  • flawdagirl
    9 years ago

    he's probably gay.

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