Is it normal for my bf to push my sexual limits?

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I'm a senior in high school and my boyfriend is 28, so we have a 10 year age difference. He is really sweet to me but when we have sex he pushes me very far. I like when he is rough (spanking, dirty talk, etc.) but i have a few limits that he really pushes. He always tries to convince me not to use a condom even though I never say yes to that. I also told him no hickies on my neck or anywhere visible for work but he leaves bruises everywhere. Sometimes he chokes me or puts it in without a condom when i say no. He eventually stops but should I bring this up to him? or just let it go because I'm having fun and I don't want to lose him.

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    I agree with Lestat and CD: he doesn't respect you.

    If you're desperate to be with someone who doesn't respect you, then you have a serious problem with self-respect.

    There's a ten year age difference between my wife and me, but she was forty when we met. At your age, that's a lot more significant, and - meaning no disrespect to you - I have to wonder what a guy his age gets out of being with a high school student. Apart from the obvious, obviously...

    I'd suggest that he's "sweet" to you simply because he wants to keep you around because you're the youngest girl he's found that's willing to fuck him.

    Given what you say, I have to wonder what you're getting out of this. Do you have a thing for bad boys? Maybe you feel that having a boyfriend his age proves that you're not a kid anymore? Both of those are fairly common, and both are stupid reasons for being with someone.

    The world is full of guys older than you who would treat you with respect and not keep pressuring you to violate your boundaries. You have the choice of sticking with this disrespectful jerk or dumping him and finding someone better.

    You say you're afraid to lose him, but the fact is that would be no great loss.

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  • CDmale4fem
    5 years ago

    I will say that he feels that with the age difference he thinks that your opinion and your wishes don't matter to him. So ask yourself if you want someone to respect your wishes, your ideas, and your feelings ? If you do, he sure the hell isnt. He wants to have sex with you and get you pregnant, and then what ? He's gonna get pissed, bitch at you, tell you it's your f'n fault for not using the pill or some other line of crap. I bet he also calls you to find where you are and who you are with? Am I close ? If you respect yourself make sure your guy is respecting you also. If not, tell him to go home and think about it or Get the fuck out. The sex can't be that good to put up with the disrespect and his forceful shit he does. Any guy that's worth a shit WILL SHOW YOU RESPECT.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I totally get how it seems but he's so genuinely kind and respectful otherwise its just that during sex he's a bit aggressive.

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  • Lestat565
    5 years ago

    It’s ok to push some limits but hard limits should not be pushed at all. I’d say dump him. He’s an ass and he doesn’t respect you. When you say stop he needs to stop. Not mabe stop, not eventually stop. Just stop. He should be wearing a condom every time. And if he doesn’t want to than you shouldn’t let his little worm anywhere near you. He needs to respect your boundaries. It’s good that your having fun but be smart about it. Be safe, sane and consensual. If you lose him than he’s not worth your time and you will easily get someone else better.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      The only thing I'm worried about is if he doesn't listen to me when we're having sex, what if he doesn't listen when i try to break up with him? He's not the kind of person I want to get angry, but I don't know how to do it without making him angry.

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      • Lestat565
        5 years ago

        Is he violent when he’s angry? Because that’s not ok. And if you broke up with him he would have no right to be mad. He’s the one that refused to listen and respect your boundaries if anyone should be angry it’s you. He violates your trust.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          He has anger issues which he is currently dealing with. He has had outbursts but has never hit me in a non sexual way.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    DUMP HIM!!!

    He's not a good person, and he doesn't respect you. He's probably just using you for sex, and he appears to be a very selfish person.

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  • BobbertA
    5 years ago

    Simply put if you say no and he puts it in you that's rape

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  • cipro
    5 years ago

    Normal. Its good for you.

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    • CDmale4fem
      5 years ago

      First off if I knew you as a person and I knew you treated women like this because you seem to think you have the right to treat them however you want, ? If I witnessed you being really shotty to a woman I would have no choice but to come and treat you the same way you are treating her. You need to learn how you treat women. If I was treating your mom, your sister or daughter that way, you would be ok with it ? What if I decide she's not being my "bitch" like I want is it ok for me to smack them around ? And I tell them to " just fucking get used to it", would that be ok ? Huh Mr. Wise ass ? guys like you are, in my opinion, a pinch of shit.

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      • cipro
        5 years ago

        Btw i kicked my sister's ass the other day. I wish i could have shown that to you sjw.

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      • cipro
        5 years ago

        Cool story bro *Yawns*

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    • CDmale4fem
      5 years ago

      So it would be ok if someone treated your sister, cousin, mom, your bff (best female friend) or other females that you know ? Or what about you ? You are probably one of them chauvinistic, egotistical pricks that think you have every right to treat women however the hell you want, huh ? your front door mat doesn't say "welcome" it says "treat'em like shit and they will love you forever", or some fucked up bull shit like that ? You sound like the kind of person I would love to witness you treating a woman like shit and I would be one that would love to give you an attitude adjustment.

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  • ysgadksjab
    5 years ago

    yeah, my boyfriend is the same way, I hate it.

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  • SmokeEverything
    5 years ago

    I mean using a condom is really unnecessary but you gotta make sure he knows how to pull out. Use his prior "getting chicks pregnant" record as a good example. Most of the people who get pregnant with the pull out method are too stupid to fuck properly.

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