Is it normal for my aunt to be the opposite of a role model..

My aunt was for real throwing shade at me at my GRANDMOTHERS funeral. Being super passive aggressive saying things like "you know that we care about you, you turned down our offer to live with us and that's OK, but we wouldn't WANT you there if y'didnt wanna be there.." There's a lot more but this is the idea.

She also has the lovely habit of leaving out all the family she feels awks around. Which basically means she makes them feel unwelcome. I'm now one of them lol..she's the type of person to have that tunnel vision thing with life. My brothers currently live with her * - *. She makes the two women who raised me feel unwelcome and never thanks them for all they've done. She even treats her husband like a child.

My brothers tell me how they don't feel loved with her and it makes me mad. She tries to control every little bit of their happiness and I just need to know if that behavior is normal(?) with a "functioning adult"?