Is it normal for mommy issues to mess up my social life?

Having been smothered as a child, I feel that I cannot tolerate any sort of closeness, emotional or otherwise. It was not until I reached my 12th birthday that I slept in my own bed (my mother defended our co-sleeping on Biblical grounds), and when I eventually moved out (some 3 hours away from where I was raised), I had to get a restraining order against my mother, who refused to leave the premises, and has been making vague threats about castrating me to stop me from finding a woman (not that I particularly want one). I've had to change my phone number before, because she won't stop calling, and I've blocked her on all forms of social media.

I feel that this sort of relationship has resulted in a form of social maladjustment for me, as I cannot tolerate any form of relationship beyond simple acquaintanceship and I find the idea of having sexual contact with another person to be invasive. I've made a hobby of writing angry, invective-filled letters to my mother with no intention of sending any.

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  • Avant-Garde

    Sounds like incest. It is definitely abuse. Judging from not wanting you to be with another woman, the castration threats, and the sleeping, she is clearly not coming from a pure place. the bible allows many things of which are now stand against by the most of the world. There was a lot of incest in it, as I have heard. What your mother claims was on biblical grounds, I don't recall ever hearing it mentioned in the bible. I think she may have lied. Twisted the book to fit into her agenda.

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  • CountessDouche

    Holy fuckin shit!

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  • MissesAnonymous23

    First off, good for you! You sound so healthy for what you've gone through, seriously. Have you ever talked to a therapist before? They may be able to help you realize something that you didn't see before that could help you keep close relationships with people. I'm sorry for what you've gone through, but I'm glad you know better than to blame yourself for her mistakes. Good luck!

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  • I often am thankful I had good parents. (They are a bit odd like me but they did they best they could and my family issues were fairly normal.)

    If I were raised they way half the people here say they were I honestly think I would have turned out to be a serial killer.

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  • TheWeasel

    I always wondered how serial killers were made......

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