Is it normal for men to get emotional

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When I was 16 (2 years ago) and I had my first real/serious relationship, it was with a guy who was extremely over emotional and would cry at very minor things but I originally just wrote this off as being an isolated incident with an extremely girly guy. We dated for about 18 months and then broke up.

I now have a new boyfriend but have recently started messaging the ex again, there is no intention of a serious relationship as he has moved quite far away now but we have flirty/sexy conversations online.

When my current boyfriend found out about this, he became very emotional and started to cry, which struck me as a massive overreaction. When I asked him “are you crying?,” he said no and then turned and walked out of the room, presumably to go and cry somewhere else.

I have mentioned how I find it unattractive, repulsive and generally pathetic when men cry or show feminine emotions yet he still did it.

I didn’t really even realise that men had emotions until I met the first bf. I have always thought that I have quite a masculine personality for a girl and I wouldn’t cry like that so I assumed most men would be like me.

Neither of these guys seemed particularly feminine or girly when I started dating them and they actually seemed like real men. Is it normal for men to get so over emotional like this?

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have_a_good_day

3 years ago | pl

Bitch you better educate your ass and break this negative stigma you are currently projecting onto all men. We's emotional! We's got needs! Bitch, you better recognize your own flaws of self suppression and find yo way to enlightenment and drop dat entitlement. Straight up, fahreal

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YE

3 years ago

I don't know why they say grown men don't cry.

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- LloydAsher
  
  3 years ago
  
  We do, usually because theres a good reason to. I think statistically women cry about once a month is men who cry every 4-6 months. They are broad averages mind you.
  
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Tommythecaty

3 years ago

“I didn’t really even realise that men had emotions until I met the first bf”

Oh...you’re retarded. And here I was judging you to be kind of a bitch, I feel bad now 😂

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olderdude-xx

3 years ago

Your current BF had an illusion that you were actually really really interested in him - and only him.

You broke that illusion without any discussion about general relationships and what he and you consider normal in your life; like shattering a window. So he cried (and many woman cry when the situation is reversed).

It's hard to put a broken piece of glass back together.

You did not need to do that, and you need to learn how to have discussions with your BF's and other SO's on what is normal behavior for you and if that is acceptable to them.

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[Old Memory]

3 years ago

All of you are douchebags, you especially and here's why:

BF#1 - Regardless of sex, if you can't have emotional maturity not to cry over mundane shit then you failed at a very important part of growing up.

BF#2 - Coward. Instead of kicking your low-quality ass to the curb he decided to have an emotional equivalent of a moan about it.

You - You legit have no value as a GF if you have no quality when it comes to being faithful, and it shows by the type of men you attract that seem to have little to no self-respect.

Also, it isn't lost on me that this is most likely bait/troll but with how retarded people seem to be I thought I'd throw my 2 cents in...Which funnily enough is how much you're worth when it comes to relationships but consider it charity.

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charli.m

3 years ago

Why do your story details change with every new post?

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- my_life_my_way
  
  3 years ago
  
  They don’t, other than new things that have happened in between each post.
  
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  - charli.m
    
    3 years ago
    
    ...you do realise your former posts are still viewable, right?
    
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litelander8

3 years ago

My life my way, huh?

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- my_life_my_way
  
  3 years ago
  
  Yep, I’ve mentioned this situation in quite a few other posts
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    3 years ago
    
    Imagine repeating over and over that you're in a relationship with a low-tier man and fuck him over for an even lower-tier man.
    
    That shit is hilarious to be prideful over. Haha
    
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    - my_life_my_way
      
      3 years ago
      
      My new boyfriend is from a rich family and he likes to pick me out designer clothes and shoes that he buys for me so it is a good relationship.
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        3 years ago
        
        At this point I'm pretty sure this a troll but again people genuinely are this stupid nowadays.
        
        So hol' up. You're telling me that not only does this man not have a spine but he also relies on mommy and daddy's money? Jesus Christ, how am I not supposed to laugh at that? You're not even daddy's little whore, your boyfriend is. 😂😂😂
        
        But the reality is setting in. Sadly I don't believe the humour you're giving me, which is disappointing. You're trying to sell me this idea that this financial sponge of a kid is in this "new" relationship and is just feeding you all of this money, cares so deeply that this "new" relationship isn't working already, and instead of kicking you to the curb and essentially buying a better model of whatever "Made in China" you're selling, he's decided to settle. Would be funny if true, kinda funny that it isn't, but I just sadly don't buy it. Nice try.
        
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EnglishLad

3 years ago

Men have a lot of stuff to deal with.

Some women think that it's ok to get married to a totally incompatible guy and then financially ruin him with the prenuptual agreement when the inevitable divorce comes.

Many other women think it's funny to kick a guy in the balls, but as soon as he hits the girl back he's in the wrong.

When girls fight over a guy, it's like "bitch, your face is going to get slammed into this tarmac if you don't walk away from me and MY man and chill the fuck out!" but when guys fight over a girl it's cute?

Women can be utter bitches on their periods, which is totally understandable if as women say, period pains feel like someone scything your abdomen open with a meat cleaver (a fact I for one am willing to accept), but do you honestly think it's acceptable that all guys are supposed to just "put up" with being screamed at and not be able to retaliate with no emotional recourse?

I bet you're one of those people who likes to tell men to "man up" whenever they start pissing and moaning about stuff and start crying over stuff YOU did. You probably think I sound like a whiny bitch writing this comment. All I can say is I hope you start looking in the mirror and figure out how your own actions impact on everyone else.

The sheer level of arrogance behind the train of thought that "there's no reason to hit a woman" is insane. We just know you don't do it, and it takes an incredible amount of self-control not to use the 4 muscles required to extend our right arm and knock you the fuck out.

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- YE
  
  3 years ago
  
  I unapologetically steer clear of drama queens.. period!
  
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RoseIsabella

3 years ago

You're a cheater, and I can't respect cheaters.

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- LloydAsher
  
  3 years ago
  
  Cheaters are the lowest of the low when it comes to being a traitor. Cheating on your SO is bullshit since if you dont like them break up and move on, dont have a side salad to compliment your entree
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    3 years ago
    
    I certainly can't argue with that. I was in a toxic relationship in 2016/2017, and I didn't try to cheat, I just left, so I really can't understand cheaters, or the cheating state of mind. Cheaters are very selfish, and entitled people.
    
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    - LloydAsher
      
      3 years ago
      
      I get the cheating state of mind, I got pangs of it with my last gf but never entertained it. It's a sign of a weak stature, not being man enough to admit things arent going your way and you want out.
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        3 years ago
        
        I'm just not the cheating type, and as a Roman Catholic I see it as a mortal sin. I just prefer not to do things that I wouldn't ever want someone to do to me, especially if it's something I could lose my soul over.
        
        I'm bracing myself for the hate, because I mentioned religion, and sin, but it truthfully comforts me when I think of someone losing their soul for the sin of adultry. Words cannot express how much I hate cheaters!
        
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        LloydAsher
        
        3 years ago
        
        I get the religion angle but for me I see it as a basic self restraint a person should have when entering a relationship.
        
        Logically speaking humans are monogamous because we have to be. We are useless for anything for up to 5 years after being born, the mother cannot provide care for that child by herself thus the father is needed to care too, that or the community will have to pitch in.
        
        I dont support single parent households of course they work in raising a kid but they are often less effective than two parent households. For that statistical reason people should be monogamous to provide your children with the best possible chance for this world. Of course if your spouse is an emotional or physical abuser peice of shit the single parent household is superior than whatever that mess will birth.
        
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SkullsNRoses

3 years ago

I have a question for you my_life, did you grow up with a father? Brothers? Male cousins?

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- my_life_my_way
  
  3 years ago
  
  Yes, I grew up with a father and male cousins but they weren’t little crying pussies.
  
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  - SkullsNRoses
    
    3 years ago
    
    So they never showed any emotion in front of you?
    
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    - LloydAsher
      
      3 years ago
      
      Well being stoic is a male trait. I suppose it's possible the father was just trying to be a bulwark of emotional stability.
      
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    - my_life_my_way
      
      3 years ago
      
      Not girly emotions like crying or being whiny bitches about things.
      
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    3 years ago
    
    "Grew up with my male cousins."
    
    Why do I get the feeling that your family reunions are awkward with only country music to fill the silence?
    
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Iluvcox

3 years ago

I'm a cranky bitch of a man unless I get enough cock from daddy, but I don't know if that's the type of emotional you are referring to and BTW sounds like you need a gay guy friend to change your bigoted attitude toward feminine guys

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