Is it normal for me to want my girlfriend to dress a bit more promiscuous

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I am in my early/mid twenties and I have been with my current girlfriend for about four years now.

When I met her and all through the start of our relationship she had a way of dressing that I found very attractive. She managed to dress somewhat promiscuous without looking slutty or revealing.

However, nowadays our life has become more serious compared to when we were students and she has started dressing formal during the week, but also kind of conservative when going out.

I used to enjoy going out together knowing that she looked great in her dress etc, and while her looks did not fade at all and I am still mesmerized by how such a hot girl could ever love me, she simply does not seem to make the effort that she used to when going out.

has anyone encountered a similar situation, is this strange for me to even think about, and what could I possibly do about it?

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    Take her shopping, watch her try on clothes and tell her what she looks hot in. it's that simple.

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  • davesumba
    11 years ago

    hah, i dare you to try and tell her how to dress. she should look more than desirable and fantastic no matter how she dresses. would you rather guys be hitting on her whenever she goe out?

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  • crygypsy
    11 years ago

    here is what my boyfriend does. lol...he tells me how sexy i'd look in a certain dress or if i have a more revealing shirt,he always makes some kind of comment like how great my breasts look in it or how cute I look in it. This lets me know that he does appreciate my more eye-catching clothing in a way that is not rude and makes me feel good at the same time =)

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    • plum6
      11 years ago

      That's encouraging of you to say, thanks :) I don't want to make my girl feel forced to adapt (whether it is regarding her attire or anything else) to gain my approval, and it is definitely not some weird fetish involving other guys.

      I just find her stunning, and I am sure she knows that she is above-average looking, which gives her the ability to look great when wearing the right outfit without this affecting her strong and grounded personality. To me this is extremely attractive, especially knowing that I am the guy who is with this woman without having any doubt of her commitment to me.

      I guess what I am trying to say is that it's such a shame when a woman kind of stops putting in some extra effort when appropriate, just because of the stable relationship.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    She's relaxed in the comfort of your relationship and love and she's a gal who knows how to dress, and that that sends a message. She's sending a signal "out there" that she's not available. A strong one. You're her guy. Appreciate that. And feel secure enough to let her know that you're OK with however she dresses. Then just respect and dig her choices and leave it alone. She's her own person and she's chosen you.

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    • plum6
      11 years ago

      I do agree with what you are saying and you sound like my conscience speaking. I do appreciate the person she is and whatever she does. However, my dumb male ego needs to be fed!

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    And girls say guys don't notice their clothes!! Psshhh

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  • lalaaa
    11 years ago

    Be honest with her...i totaly understand and agree with you ;-)

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  • prasatko
    11 years ago

    I agree with davesumba. It sounds much better than if she was dressing "promiscuous" and was the centre of attention and sexual advances of other guys, not to say being promiscuous also in behaviour, not just dressing... But this is just me - I am pathologically jealous and I hate the idea that my partner is attracting sexual attention (looks, fantasies etc) of other men. You may be on the opposite side of the spectrum (I mean, not jealous, aroused or flattered by the idea that she is being wanted and desired by other men) and then your feelings are normal, understandable and natural for you. Everybody is different.

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    • plum6
      11 years ago

      I do not consider myself to be on either side of the spectrum. I used to be jealous in my previous relationship, but I have found that my behavior depends a lot on how the woman I am with handles herself. My current girlfriend is confident and very committed to our relationship which makes me a lot more secure as well.

      I would like to make clear that I do not get any sexual pleasure from other guys checking out or hitting on my girlfriend. However, it makes me feel good whenever I am 'out' with a woman that is desirable. I myself am not particularly attractive (balding at an early age, athletic yet a bad-dresser, and a bit socially awkward) , so I guess it's an ego thing; getting an ego boost out of being with a classy and attractive woman while I myself am not really a 'catch'.

      I would feel awkward talking to her about it since I believe she would think of it as using her in order to make myself look good which shouldn't be a point of concern in any relationship.

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