Is it normal for me to get sad over not getting much attention from him?

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Alright, well, I love my boyfriend. We've been together for almost a year. I generally try to be nice and he's nice too, so we've never actually fight. Some people tell me I put up with too much from him. So.. He's great, except I find myself getting a little depressed or sad when he doesn't pay attention to me. He's the kind of guy who rarely cuddles and never compliments me anymore. I'm not looking for mass attention, but we don't even act like we're in a relationship except for holding hands and a simple goodbye peck kiss. Am I freaking out over nothing? I don't expect to change him, it just confuses me. I've tried talking to him, but I can't seem to find the right words. Is it normal for me to worry so much about this?

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Sounds like this relationship is starting to get boring for him and you're starting to see the cracks. I'm sure that after 3 years, you'll be in love with someone else. No point flogging a dead horse.

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  • Road2nowhere
    12 years ago

    I'd say yes it is normal for you to worry, but the big thing here that I noticed is that you said . . you can never seem to find the right words. And that unfortunately can be part of a lack of communication in things, and just confuse both of you emotionally.

    Above all, 2 people must feel a desire to be happy in the company of the other person, and to be able to talk about just about 'anything', without feeling any fear of retribution or starting an argument yet.

    I live with somebody I have never loved, and I am the same with her that you are seeing in your b/f, though the situations are very different in reality. You may just both have ran out of things to keep you both close, and need to do fun things together to liven life up a little ?

    Finding the right words, damn that's near impossible for some including me, but keep trying, I do hope that you manage to make things right soon.

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  • pixie_dust
    12 years ago

    he knows that he makes u feel unhappy but he doesn't care. even ur friends see it. u need to start thinking about your lfuture in terms of you, w/o him. if u don't hell'll inevitably break up with u, probably sooner rather than later, from the soinds of it! if u don't start preparing yourself, it'll be a lot worse for you.

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  • Aleks85
    12 years ago

    You're with the wrong person. There are individuals who like too much space in their relationship, and there are individuals who like to spend nearly all their free time with their partner, this is a fact for both genders.

    I'm like you, I want my girl to give me a ton of attention. I'd rather have too much attention (to the point of annoyance even) rather than not enough.

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  • SkylerMarie
    12 years ago

    I'm having the same problems! But my mom tells me im just being "sensitive" but it really gets to me. Idk if maybe we should take a break and then he could realize what he's taking for granted or if i should just get over it. Every time i try talking to him about it he just says sorry but never changes.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    No of course you're not freaking out. Never be afraid to tell him what you want or need.

    "I don't expect to change him"

    He may have to. Part of being in a relationship is changing aspects of yourself for the sake of the other.

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