Is it normal for him to cry?

77% Normal

My boy and I have been seeing each other for about a year. However we have had a bunch of ups and downs and its cause of me feeling insecure about what am I to him since he would treat me differently and not consistently. I always questioned his feelings for me of whether he really does like me or he is using me. I've confronted him so many times and I guess he's just tired of it and I understand him but he needs to realize and sympathize why I feel this way. But this past weekend we spent it together. Again I confronted him about my feelings and for the first time he shed like a tear. I've never seen him so vulnerable and i swear that tear has flipped everything. I never thought I'd see him cry but he just said that he doesn't like it how I think he's using me and doubting everything he does for me like coming with me to spend the weekend. He is a sensitive guy but not in a crying way but more like in a serious way and finally I saw him vulnerable. I've heard if the guy cries for her he loves her and I believe it. My last bf would cry for me and I knew he loved me before he did cry. And now him...which touches me so much and I feel bad that I've been giving him sucha hard time. At the end of the night tho he just started eating me out which he doesn't do often cause he said he only does it in the moment when he really feels something strong like if it's special. And he ate me out so much even the next morning. Crying and eating me out kind of made me feel more sympathy for him but most of all more secure. The little things he would do that would bother me dont bother me as much anymore now that I know exactly how he feels about me. I love him so much and he knows that which is why he won't just let go and now that I know how he feels for me, were stronger and love each other more.

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Dad

9 years ago

Shedding a tear (or crying) does NOT make a relationship sound or secure!

Love is built up of many things, and probably the best one I can think of for you is trust!

Your bf does not need to cry ever (yes or no makes little difference) NOR does your NEXT bf !!!

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Pseodonihm

9 years ago

Was there a question asked?

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VinnyB

9 years ago

Wow, just wow. What a pile of nonsense.

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(s)aint

9 years ago

... You took it as evidence he likes you.
When my awful mood and insecurity gets the best of me and I see how it affects my boyfriend I feel ashamed of myself and my actions.

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Ellenna

9 years ago

You sound very insecure and have clutched at two straws - he cried and ate you out - to reassure yourself that he cares about you.

The fact that he's still around when he clearly doesn't like you continually demand reassurance probably means that he does love you, but that doesn't mean he always will or that he'll stick around if you keep doing what clearly bothers him.

Can you just relax and enjoy what's good between you?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I am and Im done reading and brainwashing myself about whats good or not based on hints or actions. I haven't read something or been on IIN for a few days when I was with him and things were absolutely beautiful! But what had happened that night made me feel a sort of reassurance. I know the eating me out might sound ridiculous but its true. Sexual acts vary from different people. Some do it for different reasons than other people like me and him do. If it made feel more secure then idc about what others say. I asked cause i was curious but I am getting typical responses like no its not true its just eating you out, etc or he shouldn't have to cry and it sounds like a broken relationship. Him crying made me realize he cares for me or else he just wouldn't give a shit. It didn't have to come down to that but sometimes you have to go downhill in order to realize what really matters and thats what happened. It made us tighter and stronger. For the rest of the trip he was honestly putting an effort to show me he cares and I was putting an effort to put the little things aside because they dnt matter. So the point is, if you're happy then who cares about what others think of it or analyze about it. Analyzing could be so detrimental to your happiness and I know that from experience. No wonder he thought I was crazy when I would confront him about something like where did I get that from? from articles and what others say. He always said to not worry and everything is fine so now I definitely trust him way more than before. I love him and he showed me he loves me.
  
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  - Ellenna
    
    9 years ago
    
    I think the fact that he cried showed there are some deep emotions there for you, and I congratulate you both for turning things around in the relationship. However, it does sound to me as if your self-esteem is still dependent on him and that's not healthy long term.
    
    Good luck with it
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      I mean it was sucha shocker when I saw him get teared up. I thought I'd never see that ever because I accepted how aloof he was. Although we had drinks, it wasn't a lot and I remembered everything and in the past, we have gotten drunk and he never got that emotional. So I don't want to think the alcohol made him cry. It meant so much to me that it will brush off the small doubts I'll have every now and then. It showed he does cared and was stressed over the whole thing. I felt so bad and don't wanna be so hard on him anymore.
      The self-esteem thing, I don't think so. I don't depend on him to make me feel better about myself if thats what you mean. Im fine with or without him as a person but of course because of the love and passion we have, my heart will suffer if anything were to happen, but not my self-esteem.
      
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