Is it normal for guys to act like this?

Imagine this. You like this guy a lot. He doesn't feel the same for you but says you can be friends. From that point on you'll have to experience him wanting people the way you want him to want you. You'll have to bear with knowing that he is kissing other people like you would like to do with him. You would have to experience him loving someone like you would want him to love you. I don't know about you, and perhaps I can't speak for all guys but enough, but that would be hell to endure.

It would also be very selfish of you to think it's wrong for them not to want to go through that emotional torture just so that you are happy with the friendship even at the expense of their emotional wellbeing. Not saying you are doing that but I mentioned it just incase you do want that.

That's the thing about the whole friendzone thing. People just imagine the person only wants to screw you but most of the time they genuinly like you more than just physically. I'll mention this aswell. Friendzoning is allowed. If you don't like someone then you simply don't like them, that is a choice you are allowed to make. I've made it, you've made it, countless others have too. However people will try to escape the friendzone in two ways. Try to get out of it towards you or try to get out by doing what these guys have done to you.

So if you want help, I'll give it. Be blunt from the start. Form a familiar relationship with someone that comes before a friendship and lay it down that you are not wanting to be in a relationship with them. Try do it subtle if you can but if you can't, do it bluntly. That way if the guy only wants a friendship then he won't go, hopefully. If he wanted more, he will go, hopefully.

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i gave up on being just friends with guys. never works out I have my partner and my friends partners are the only guys pals I need no drama or mistaken feelings dead simple

Watch "When Harry Met Sally." A guy and a girl (in a hetero normative setting) can not be just friends.

Exceptions exist. This is only true if both parties are available and they are both within each other's acceptable demographic for sexual relations.

They just don't want to get hurt and are trying to move on. It's normal. It's a shitty feeling hanging out with a girl while being attracted to her knowing you'll never get her

Yeah, I think you hit it on the head. When it's happened to me it was apparent the woman felt rejected and spurned by me not sharing their interest in taking our friendship to a romantic level. And this even when my response was as nice and sensitive as possible. On a positive note, the fact they act that way exposed them as the kind of person I wouldnt want as a romantic partner anyway. So, I then know I was right not to take the relationship deeper, but it's still a bummer.

It's normal, assuming they have romantic thoughts of you and your response shoots that down. I'm a guy and have experienced the same thing with women. Everything seems great until they make some sort of move to indicate they want more than friendship. If I don't respond in kind, they almost always withdraw even as friends - and sometimes with anger toward me. I don't understand it either.

If you're leading them on, it's understandable. If you are just friends, and make that clear, then they're just dicks.