Is it normal for children to behave this way??

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I rarely attend family dinners at this one relatives place. Besides them acting weird towards me, their children behave very ill-mannered. I am still a teenager and these are my cousins. They are violent towards everyone normally but today they focused all their attention on me. All the kids surround and worry me I can't even talk to the adults and no one says anything. The boy is very bad and hits very hard constantly...I am a girl and don't like this and when I try and discipline him he cries and takes more physical revenge on me. In short, this child is ill-disciplined.

My father who is in love with these kids, says they are better than me even though I am older, says that I am behaving like a kid when I told him I don't want to go there and told their whole family I will only come there when their kids are disciplined and older! I want to know is me or my father right here? And also is it normal this kids behaviour? Thank you for reading until here :)

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Based on 25 votes (6 yes)
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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Unruly children should be warned once, and if they persist in bad behavior, taken out back and shot!
    There are more than enough mean, hateful people on this planet already, without allowing more to grow into the terrorists, rapists, serial killers and child molesters of the future.
    And while we are at it, we should probably do the same to their parents.

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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    Sounds like these kids need a beating, in the face. Better handle it now before they run into someone like me out in the real world when they grow up and get the shit beaten out of them.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Their behaviour isn't normal. Unruliness can be the result of many factors: spoiling, abuse, poor diet, neurological conditions, etc. How old are these angry children? Their behaviour needs to be nipped in the bud before they get too old and out of control.

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  • pastor_of_muppets
    9 years ago

    You're a girl..
    It is not right for a male of any age to even attempt to hit you.
    Next time they try to hurt you, kick them as hard as you possibly can in their groin. That is called a Kin Geri.
    Point your toes forward in a downward angle so that the bridge of your foot is hard. It won't hurt you but it will hurt them. Badly. The bridge of your foot is the area you should aim to make the contact with.

    If you don't want to kick them there, even though it will result in them never wanting to bully you again, it might get you in big trouble.
    If they punch you, step away from the punch (tai sabaki) and grab the punching arm with your back hand and pull forward and downward (in the direction his punch is going) - this will require no strength on your part and he will be on the ground, stomach down. You press down on his shoulder blade with your hand and rest your knee on his elbow. Be careful here, because you can easily break his elbow in this position.
    Or you can just push him over, take your thumbs and stick it into the bottom part of his jaw on either side of his throat, just beneath the tonsils. Push as hard as you want. It can momentarily parilyze him if done right.

    Sorry if this sounds a bit excessive. But NOBODY has the right to abuse a woman

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    • Wolfeye
      9 years ago

      I don't really recommend fighting back like that; any of those moves could cause a lot of damage if not performed just right, not to mention that they could constitute assault if the size or age difference between her and her cousins is great enough.

      OP, I wish I had good advice to give. I was older than my cousins growing up and used to hit back and yell if they came at me like that. It didn't exactly help turn them into better people even though they sometimes treated me better in the short run. Your cousins have bad parents, that much is obvious. Asking them to make their kids stop probably wouldn't work, as the parents are the source of the problem.

      You could make yourself boring to the other kids. Hang out with the adults, don't get involved with whatever the cousins are up to. The price your cousins pay for being violent to you is that they don't get to hang out with you.

      You won't be in that situation forever. It might be a long time from now, but you'll eventually have the choice to not visit them because you'll be independent.

      If any of your relatives, especially the older ones, cross a big line then don't hesitate to act. Do what you can to get away and tell someone you trust what happened.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        9 years ago

        You made me smile, sharing your own experience. I probably sound like a wimp to you but it's not true, when I fight back I look like a monster. I love them, I just think they need discipline and are irritating me always, they aren't always like this... just get excited around me. I don't want to cut off family ties but I'm a girl, not interested in playing...I seldom go there, even when I try they surround me like I'm main entertainment and even scream my name from the time the car pulls up....LOL...you are right about the parents. And thanks a lot :) The stuff the "pastor" recommended is barbaric to use on kids...haha.

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    • charli.m
      9 years ago

      But it's ok for her to attack a child back, possibly causing permanent damage?

      Violence against anyone is never an answer.

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    No this isnt normal behavior... this is bad behavior brought on by poor parenting.
    if your parents dont believe you about how bad the kids are being I would record it to show them.

    How old are you compared to the other kids?
    I wouldnt be the person to mess with...id duck tape them up and leave them in a closet... if I was still a teenager :P
    this behavior isnt anywhere to be found in my family it just wouldnt be tolerated by any of the adults.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      No I don't need to record anything because my parents have a live show! In fact I feel like showing them this forum and post! The kids range from 4 to 7 years old. I made the cute little boy cry and I felt bad afterwards so I just decided not to go there until they learn discipline. The girls love me a lot and follow me like groupies...guess I forgot to mention this...my bad...

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      • reminiscent
        9 years ago

        Idk what to tell you if your parents are so blind to the situation.

        If it git bad enough for me I would probably still lock them in a closet...tho you may get in trouble for this since the adults are blinded.

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