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After having sex with a guy is it normal for feel used?
Every time I give a guy sex I feel like he just used me.
Sometimes having sex with a guy can clear the bs.then he can actually think!
Sex is mostly the point, after that ,it's people
. Like I always say...." Your never having fun until your full of regret."
Do you want the sex to begin with? If you don't then don't do it. Maybe you're not enjoying the actual sex either ? Do you know what you're getting yourself into before the sex? Meaning, is it just sex, friendship with sex, a hook-up.. Or maybe you really are being used but if that's the case you need to start paying attention to who you fuck. Not all guys are jerks, the nice ones are usually pretty good in bed too.
If I don't have sex how can I get a guy to stay with me?
He's not going to come over just to watch TV, I like sex too but be for real no sex means a guy wont even bother.
Not necessarily. I mean if he knows that's not what you're looking for and you make it clear without being bitchy about it, he might still come to just hang out. I've only ever had guy friends. I was pretty much one of the guys to some of them, yes some tried to do stuff but it's normal. I kindly decline and kept the friendship if possible
IDK that would be hard I mean guys see me and all they want to do is fuck. If im alone with a guy for 10 seconds hes trying something. I dont know what it is but ever man im around wants to fuck me even if I don't know them. Usually I end up doing it but im tired of being used I guess. I think what really made me mad at myself is because I ened up sucking my college teachers dick. Hes a fat ugly nasty man and stinks but somehow I still sucked his cock when I went to his office. He came in my mouth and I had to go to the bathroom and throw up.
It sounds like you've got into a bad habit of having sex with people too soon and seeking attention from guys too much. Unfortunately word gets around and guys will seek you out just for sex.
If you don't want to have sex with someone then don't. If you want to have a relationship with someone wait until you meet someone you really like / love.
This happens to certain men, too. It goes both ways. It is just more seen that women are used for sex.
For me, it might be different. I was in a sexually abusive relationship. I'm in a healthy monogamous relationship now, and every time he finishes and I don't finish (and I usually don't, but that's because I don't come from intercourse) I feel used. He usually gets pretty tired afterwards, so that's what he wants - sleep. He'll fall asleep and I get this sick feeling. And because of that nature of my last relationship, I'm to afraid to tell him that I'd like to keep going. Or at least, when its practical.
Nothing that you can do will change if a guy will stay with you or not. Like having sex. You gotta try suss out the guys and try to judge who is looking for a relationship and who is just looking for a nit of a tumble and nothing else. I don't know what age you are, but guys at the age i suspect you are, are like silly dogs in heat, so it could be very difficult to find immediate success.
You are best off stepping back, and projecting the image that your legs are not a set of automatic doors, and anyone who wants to go there should earn it. This automatically attracts the right type of guy you are looking for.
Inviting people over to your house may project the wrong image.. suggest other things to do that can be fun so sex is taken out of the equation. This way a guy can get to know you, still with your clothes on. This will qualify their interest in you. If they want to see you again, great, if they don't want to see you again, you haven't allowed yourself to be 'used'.
Whatever you do, DON'T get pregnant.
Hi Juju thank you for that advice I really like your words. You seem so nice I bet your cute to :) Im 23 how old are you?
sure thing, normally my replies need to be taken with a pinch of salt, but on odd occasions I am actually serious, as in this case, as it all sounds genuine enough.
I'm 38. Of course I'm nice and very cute (after 4 pitchers of strong beer and a couple of shots thrown in) :p
4 pitchers of beer thats a lot. I had to stop drinking bc it made me wild.
Yeah except for me I end up on my back or on my knees or both. Now that I'm in community college I want my life to be different than it was when I was younger. Don't get me wrong I love sex I just want it to mean something I don't know it's hard to explain