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My wife does not want me to work. She wants me to stay home and basically take care of the house while she makes the money. Is this normal?
What more could a guy want in life? Watching Oprah and soaps all day, never mind judge Judy and Jerry? Coffee with all the other housewives, some who might really appreciate a guy in the group for a bit of afternoon delight.
Clipping coupons and buying groceries. You could join a gym to keep yourself in shape.
However, I'm not so sure how the breast feeding would go when the first child arrived. Not that there's anything wrong with being a house husband, mind you. I've done it a few times between jobs, even if we were living on a boat instead of a house.
For one - its boring as hell. Sure I joined a gym blah blah blah
Not interested in watching life pass me by while I do menial chores. Granted we have a nice house and I have tons of toys, gadgets etc. no kids as we are over the child years.
Now that I know she does not want me to work, I want to work more than ever....
Years ago this would be a troll story, sadly, this is now a very real life scenario.
Did she buy you an apron?
Because men acting like women and women acting like men are stupid scenarios.
Yeah, I know, I wish I could go back to the 1950s also. You know what wasn't a major problem back then also? Depression.
Gender stereotypes are extremely stupid and do you mean the 1950's or the 1850's? Depression was a HUGE issue for stay at home women back then & women were prescribed anti-depressants as a matter of course: hence the Women's Liberation Movement. Have you read "The Feminine Mystique"? - I'll bet not.
I know, I was there and I doubt if you were a woman in the 50's or 60's, so you don't know WTF you're talking about.
Seeing as I am a man, no of course I would not read a book that has anything to do with the word "feminine" in it. Why would I?
Also, anti-depressants were not common in the 50s and 60s, so you clearly (yet again) have no idea what you are talking about. Prozac, the first major selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor, was introduced in 1987.
Your own experiences with men (as you detailed in the comment below) show exactly what your opinion is.
Not yet but I get the feeling she's been thinking about it.
She actually gets mad [tries to act like she's happy] when I get a job. She acts real funny....imagine some crazy female acting style...I think most males have seen it.
One time she even hid my white shirt I was going to wear for an interview. Nobody but me and her live here. I looked all over about 10 times and nothing. I called her mad as hell and pretty much blamed her then bought a new shirt. She came home mad [of course females have to bluff] and what do you know, she found my missing white shirt in about 30 seconds. Hmmmmmm.
Honestly going to the extent that she hides your interview clothes sounds manipulative, like she's obsessed with you depending on her. She has no right to stop you getting a job and it sounds like you need to have a serious discussion with her about this.
She is manipulative, but of course she will deny any accusation of manipulation. For the most part I know you really can't change people and I don't have the energy to try. So what I am doing is ignoring her as best I can and continuing to strive for my own success. I save up cash [just in case] and keep moving on with my life. She can't stop me.
Hasn't it occurred to you that you could both work part-time and share all those boring menial chores which are usually left to women, including in couples where both are working part-time?
I tried to get my then (now ex & late) ex-husband to do this back in the 70's after our first and only child was born but no, he wanted me to work full time (as I found out later bc he was spending a fair bit of his income on a number of girlfriends) AND do all the housework as well. I was a lot more naive in those days than I am now, but even then I could see the unfairness of that.