Is it normal for a straight girl for always falling for gay guys? advice?

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I'd really like some advice/support for this situation! I am a 20 year old heterosexual girl who continuously falls for gay guys. I have dated three guys (who were not gay at the time) and are now gay. The same pattern seems to happen again and again. I am 100% certain that I am straight, I am very much not interested in women.

It is never obviously feminine gay guys, it always ends up being like this: I become close to a guy that claims to be straight, he is never super feminine, I end up falling for him, we have some weird relationship that seems to be more than a friendship. Some time passes and I find out that my gay best friend (who I adore and at one point had feelings for as well) has had sex with them. I just feel terrible and like an idiot every time this happens..

I end up breaking things off with the new guy I met out of either frustration or embarrassment (since neither of them end up telling me straight up about it, I just always find out, since the other guy is closeted) and fighting with my gay friend. The rest of my friends hear about it and think I'm an idiot. This is rinse, wash and repeat.

Some advice I've gotten is break things off with my gay friend, but even if I do, I end up finding another closeted gay friend and the same situation happens.

Is there something wrong with me? How do I get out of this funk? I just feel so hopeless.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    That awkward moment when your gay best friend is more sexually appealing than you are to guys. Lol.

    Buuut, maybe some of these guys are bisexual? Maybe they were experimenting with your friends?...Or maybe you turn them gay. Lol.

    Might just be that you friend is an attractive male that even other males that aren't gay feel attraction to, who knows.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    It's always a pretty safe relationship when a straight gal hangs with gay guys. There's no chance that he'll hit on you, so that whole aspect of a relationship is not there for you to worry about. You can be friends, even close friends, and yet you know when he touches you it is not about sex.
    I think when you are ready for a complete relationship, you will find yourself in the company of hetero guys.

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  • ramek
    9 years ago

    Don't be friends with a gay. Gey attracts gey.

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  • Asstastics
    9 years ago

    Easy. Let your gay boyfriend do you in the butt! After the first two or three times, you'll really like it. Get an anal training kit on-line today!

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  • Brownblowout
    9 years ago

    Can't u see how feminine they are? They'd rather pack fudge

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  • Lonely2
    9 years ago

    There doesnt seem to be anything wrong with you...you like guys and are probably attracted to quasi gay guys because the are not sex crazed and are willing to go slow and get to know you first....younwill eventually meet the right guy

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