Is it normal for a soon-to-be 48-year-old man to desire a 23-year-old woman?

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Yes, I know I've asked a question like this before, but it's been a while, so I wanted to ask another.

A couple of weeks ago, I met this overly sexy 47-year-old man online.

Now, I love older men -- prefer them, to be honest -- but I have limits, and I'd usually refuse to date a man who's less than two years older than my own mother!

However, he's...intoxicating, to type the least.

He has a deep voice that I just love -- and we haven't even met in person yet!

I don't want to put all of my eggs in one basket, though, so I'm trying to control myself here because I do not wish to get hurt.

I've read that men who are willing to date women who are "that much younger," like a 24-year gap in this case, "have issues."

It's biologically natural for men to lust after young females, though, but we humans can rise above our instincts; we are just higher-functioning animals.

What do you think?

Do men who want to date women who are half their age "have issues"?

As a side note, spare me the BS stereotypes about me possibly being a golddigger/having a so-called "daddy complex," or him being a "pervert."

I just want answers from people who can think for themselves.

Thanks.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    In all honesty, and I mean this as constructive advice, I think you both might have some issues. You mention those "daddy issues" and "gold digging" so you have at least heard and/or read about them before, there could be some relevance to that here as well, though I cant say for sure as I dont know you.

    At 23/24 you should have at least another 50 yrs of life ahead, most likely more being a woman. At close to 50 for him his life is at least half over. A 24 yr age gap is a not "just a number" when it comes to a romantic relationship, you should have different goals, different maturity levels, different responsibility levels, different just about everything. If you dont see that now, picture 10 yrs from now, you will be mid 30s, still relatively young, energetic, especially if you take care of yourself. He will basically be 60 yrs old. 60 is old, its not very old, but it is old. Do you picture much energy or romance taking place at that age? Think you would still have much in common still? Hard to imagine just going on age difference.

    As I said I meant this as advice, anything is possible. Only you would know for sure. One thing I can agree with from the other comments is that a man that age with a younger woman that age is most certainly interested in sex as well. Whether its just for sex is something you would find out, but it would certainly play a part in the attraction.

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  • Darkoil
    12 years ago

    The only reason a 47 year old would want to date a 23 year old is for sex.

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    • DavidS.
      12 years ago

      Pretty much the reason a 20 year old would date a 19 year old too

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  • zchristian
    12 years ago

    More normal than you think...

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  • tentacleTherapist
    12 years ago

    Normal.

    Oh fuck, there's this 60 year old and I'm like, "OMFG I HOPE HE LIKES MEEEE ლ(ಠ益ಠლ)

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  • theabider
    12 years ago

    I am younger than you, and dating a man 16 years older than me, and we love it. We are just so in love. It is totally logical to me. It is a good deal for both parties. The guy gets the youthful beauty and firm body of a younger woman, while the woman have the security of having a guy who is mature enough to care for them well, has rugged good looks, and has the sexy deep voice you spoke of.;)Go for it girl.

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    • Britton
      12 years ago

      "Take care of them"....because younger men aren't capable of such feats....

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    What a blessing that there are people like you out there in the world to make others dreams complete!

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  • pizzabrowniesushi
    7 years ago

    my dad is in his late 70's and on oxygen and is engaged to a 23 year old who kind of looks like a pregnant taylor swift if you squint a little..

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  • yourdeepestshame
    8 years ago

    Yeah, I think it's pretty normal; that said, there's no way it'll ever work out with you two. Any gap over 10 years and the prospect of success is pretty low. The age difference is just too much, it won't work out.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    Meh, obviously even here there is a massive stigma, and I don't understand why. The woman who babysat me and basically became family with me had a 20 some year age difference with her husband, and theirs was one of the best marriages I've ever had the pleasure to witness.

    If you're compatible and happy with that person in every other way, why should a number of how many years they've been on this earth stand in the way of that? Too many people are in awful relationships. Be cautious of course, the same is true with anyone you would try to date. But if that number is the only thing standing between the two of you, fuck that number.

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  • DavidS.
    12 years ago

    Sexual expression has a broader range than we realize...it does not fit into these neat categories of age, weight, height etc....there is a range and percentages... When you say that you usually date say guys in the 25-30 range it just means that in that age range , for you, there is a higher percentage of guys that you would find attractive ...but even in other age ranges there are guys you would still find attractive..just a lower and lower percentage ...so while your usually not attracted to someone in this age range..you just met the exception..which in some ways actually makes him more special..right?

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    If that guy knew you were asking this question, he'd be STOKED

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  • chubbawubba69
    12 years ago

    You aren't runwaymodel from another site are you?

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  • Lardzor
    12 years ago

    I'm a guy in his early 40's. I definitely find young women in their 20's very attractive. Women in their early 20's seem self centered to me. If they don't act like spoiled brats and can hold a conversation with me and my friends then I don't have a problem with it.
    I don't really think of myself as being as old as I obviously am. I'm still addicted to video games, and I still have a skateboard. I haven't used it in a while, but it wasn't that long ago when I still used it for transportation for short distances.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      While you arent old per say, and especially arent if you take very good care of yourself there is still a major difference in age that has to play a part in everything that goes on.

      It would make sense to find woman in their 20s as attractive its pretty much the prime of life, espcially so for woman who definitely do not age as well as men do.

      And you still have to think of it in terms of age, I am 31 and I would have a hard time dating anyone under 25, even 25 is a stretch. Getting along at the moment is great, but getting along for the longer term is a whole other ballgame entirely. Someone in their 40s is just at a different stage of life then someone in 20's. Its just the way it is.

      Think of it like me (at 31) hanging out with some 18 yr olds or going to HS age parties (18-20). Wouldnt it look kinda silly? And wouldnt I be at a different stage of life then those kids?

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  • TheRedSheepInPic
    12 years ago

    IDK why I always find older women sexier than younger ones.One advice I can give you is be careful with strangers.

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