Is it normal for a mom to get mad over this?

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To have two grown up children and want to invite them to events with her new BF family. Saying that she wants them to part of her BF family when she did not even ask if they liked her BF she just introduced him as "A friend". After which throws a big hissfit since they say they dont want to be part of her BF family and mom can make her own decisions but that does not mean the adult children are part of it. Should the adult children really be forced to love moms new BF and moms new BF Family since MOM SAID SO?

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Based on 28 votes (5 yes)
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  • harukim
    8 years ago

    The mom in this case should be clearly honest about her intentions. if not, her children are in a difficult situation. they may need to take their own road...

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    How on earth can your mother force you to love anyone? You don't sound very grown up to me, let her have her hissy fits and just ignore them, it sounds as if she's trying to manipulate you and you're letting her do so.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I dont see how its not grown up to not want to love my mothers new boyfriend. I have a Father. Why do I want a replacement? If he was a fuck up fine, I am over 18, if I was under 18 I could understand her wanting me to accept him but I am not. Explain to me why being an adult means to love your parents new lover when you dont feel like having a new replacement. My dad does not love his moms new husband and respect him as his "New Dad" but he is not a jerk to her husband.

      Being over 18 means you make your own decisions. She basically just said "I found you a new dad, now love him or else you cant be part of my family anymore" What the fuck? That is a little fucked up dont you think? Tell me why its more adult to let your mother force you to love her BF or else you cant be her kid no more? Tell me how you believe that is more mature?

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        You've totally misunderstood me, I meant that it's not very grownup to let her manipulate you. I also pointed out that she can't make you love anyone and she shouldn't make you try to do so.

        I'm on your side here, read my post again

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          I already told her know and she had a fit over it. Said "Fine I guess you just dont love me do you"?

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          • Ellenna
            8 years ago

            Wow, she really is manipulative, isn't she? That's a class trick to try & get someone to do something they don't want to do: it's called emotional blackmail and she sounds like an expert

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              8 years ago

              Her BF was there the whole time and did not say anything. I was going to try to address him but I could not get mom to stop balling. I wanted to say "Its not personal, please dont think so" but me and my mother were too into our argument that all he could really do was watch us bicker.

              I probably not going to give her the same respect of going to her remarriage wedding like I did my father. My dad is an asshole but he did not try getting us a new mom, he just got a new wife.

              I am wondering if she gave him the impression that he was suppose to be our new dad. She kept saying "He is not your dad, I not trying to replace your dad." However she says we must be part of his family or else we are no longer her children. Which I am fine with. I no longer love or have any care for either of my parents.

              She also seems to be forcing herself into his other families life. Calling his kids her kids, and the mom from her BF previous marriage is not taking very kindly to it. Which I can understand why. She pretends she is not doing something to confuse people and than just pushes herself into a position.

              She also said her BF kids look just like her and not like their mother. I dont understand how she can possibly not see how her behavior might upset other people but like my father she is too self absorbed. The only difference is my father is very proper, so he knows how to handle this type of stuff. Hes an ass but he was always a very proper man. If he wants a family to work he wont push it, he just trys to make sure everyone isnt at each others throats. Since he knows better.

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  • toofgod
    8 years ago

    Learn a bit better grammar I'm not that drunk am I?

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