Is it normal for a man to have no paternal instinct
Is it normal for a man to have no paternal instinct
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KeddersPrincess
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NeofelisNebulosa
Well I'm a female and I have no maternal instinct. So I don't plan on having any children. I plan on being a cat lady
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[Old Memory]
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ArmusWasTheFirstTroll
Yes, selfish people have been a part of humanity from the very beginning.
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RainbowDischarge
Is it more selfish if I have children but neglect to take care of them or if I didn't have any at all?
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ArmusWasTheFirstTroll
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Sprungindentod
actually, you are selfish for wanting to bring a baby in this fucked up, overpopulated world where it will eat more and more resources
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ArmusWasTheFirstTroll
i agree, that would be selfish. People seem to not know what words mean these days . . .
Selfish - concerned chiefly with one's own personal pleasure or profit.
OP asked about the absence of paternal instinct. This is synonymous with saying, "IIN for someone to be incapable of putting a child's pleasure and profit before their own?"
By definition, that is selfish.
Whether or not that is morally good or bad was not mentioned. Which is what you seem to believe happened.
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Sprungindentod
but then again, going by your definition, bringing a child to this world is selfish as well. you are putting your pleasure of wanting a baby in this world over the fact that neither your baby nor the people who you share this world with, consent to it.
paternal instinct don't just stop at giving your child pleasure. most parents do put their comfort over their children and their children turn out to be great. paternal instincts do include having love for the child or bonding. it isn't selfish to not bond with your child since one can't help it.
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ArmusWasTheFirstTroll
Again, I agree. That is selfish too.
I am pro-choice. I felt like that needed saying.
That being said. When did anyone say anything about abortion? That is clearly what you and Rainbow down there are getting at.
When I read the post, I envisioned an adult male feeling apathy toward a toddler or young child.
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Sprungindentod
lol, when i read that post i was imagining someone who doesn't want kids and don't want anything to do with them. and was annoyed by "breeders" who believe having kids is wonderful. i guess it just depends on the perspective.
anyway, why is selfishness perceived as something bad? we already have limited time on this world, why should we be expected to do something we don't want to? besides, everything a person does is selfish. a guy giving food to the homeless can be seen as just wanting to feel good about himself. i mean who wouldn't feel like good after they give food to the needy?
i'm happy to see someone pro choice btw. i am pro choice as well but i doubt this post is about abortion.
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penisprisoner
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kariann789
Look all through history....we are always the nesters, the ones keeping a home and taking care of the kids and sick/injured family members, while guys have always been the hunters who couldn't care less about taking care of the family only hunting and gathering food.
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I think that the concept is nonsense. I am not saying that people don't have instincts, and I think the desire to love, care for, and protect a child once it is born are normal instincts. But how to actually go about any of that is a learned behavior. I also don't think the instinctual parts of that have to kick in before you actually look at your child for the first time.
So if you are saying that you have a child, you look at that child, and you feel nothing for it, then I would say that is abnormal, but not unheard of. Anything beyond that and you are worrying about nothing.
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Freedom_
I think they have them but it seems to be different instincts from what mothers have. Both learn mostly from trial and error, so the one who tries more techniques will obviously be honing their parenting skills more than the other. Unfortunately, there are way too many men and women who lack a decent amount of common sense, like the women who Jay walk their children across 6 lanes of traffic and this one dad I saw not protecting his young daughter (shivering in a tank top) from the cold rain.
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thegipsysail0r
My father used to piss in my face all the time. That is why I am such an angry asshole today.
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