Is it normal for a husband to hurl put downs at you?
My husband yells and cusses at me when he gets upset, and calls me names like crazy and lunatic. We are both from poor ignorant families but he seems to still behaves like his kindred when he gets upset. My male friends are agast when I talk about how he behaves when he's angry. Do most men secretly hurl insults and cuss at their wives? Also, is this behavior mostly relegated to lower classes of men; is there a difference in how one talks to his wife between urban men vs rural men, vs suburban men? I think it is our upbringing in high crime areas with uneducated parents incable of expressing emotion in intellegent ways that has given way to our own difficulty with communication as adults; though I've mostly changed for the better, he has not regarding how he handles his anger.