Is it normal for a guy to tell another girl that his girlfriend is just "ok"?

He and I have been good friends for many years. He used to have a crush on me. When I asked him about his girlfriend he said "Yeah, she's Ok" in an indifferent voice. Then around other people he acts like he is having fun with her.

They have been official on Facebook for 6 months and both their profile pictures are happy couple photos. Why would he act indifferent about her to me?

He still likes me and wants to be with me. 24
He is content with her but didn't want to seem whipped. 26
He is content with his social situation with her. He likes her friends 10
Other? 20
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Comments ( 19 )
  • dom180

    Maybe he just feels awkward about saying how great she is? My girlfriend is great, but for some reason I'd feel awkward about telling anyone how wonderful she was.

    He might also have been fighting with her when you asked him about her, so he felt more indifferent than he usually would. Feelings can be ephemeral.

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    • shade_ilmaendu

      I do this a lot. I don't wanna be that annoying chick gushing about her SO all the time. I didn't even have more than one picture of us together on facebook and it was of us at a con in our costumes.

      Seems like I'm one of the only ones, everyone else is always sending each other sappy public messages and taking shitloads of kissy pics. I feel it's rude to shove that stuff in other people's face though.

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  • Bandaid419

    You answered your own question when you said 'he used to have a crush on me'
    And it sounds like you may like him more than you want to admit if this is on your mind

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  • @ Tris18

    They have been dating about 6 months.

    @ChemGirl
    No I am not interested in him but I really care about him and want him to move on and be happy. I feel guilty that I told him no, that I didn't like him like that. But I still miss him

    As time goes on sometimes I do think we would be so good together. We really understood one another. I haven't met another man I felt as in sync with. But sometimes he seemed like he didn't know how to talk to a woman that he really wanted to be with. There was insecurity and he said immature things to shock me.

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  • Ghost-of-the-Marlboro-Man

    SMOKE!

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  • ChemGirl

    There's a good chance he still has a thing for you, but why are you asking? Are you interested in him now? If you're not, then just let him be happy with her and don't worry about it.

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  • Tris18

    He probally loves her a lot but he also likes you still so he may be in love with her deeply but her loves you more so he will tell a lie to "save you" when he brakes up with her or vise versa. How long have they been dating?

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  • ccjigsaw

    He's probably sparing your feelings. Doesn't matter who is was. Someone who used to like you, telling you that he's already over you for another girl. Nothing like a good old punch to the ego.
    YEAH! :D I'm over you and my new girlfriend's awesome!! We're so happy together! <BR>He obviously doesn't hate you, or he would have rubbed it in your face to make you feel bad and possibly want him. He doesn't still like you. No worries there. You're just the last person he should be telling about his new found happiness.

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  • pixie_dust

    Oh.. puppy love

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  • spark007

    He doesn't want you to be jealous, I think. Or something like that, because you are sort of his best friend. He wants to stay best friends with you, but feels uncomfortable when he's talking about his girlfriend in front of you?

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  • keef

    My boyfriend use to be basically head over heels for my friend. He thought she was the perfect girl for him for a while. She didn't like him in that way but he still liked her. But after we started talking and dating, he's not afraid to tell her how he feels about me. She really just annoys him anymore.

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  • NothingxCrazy

    I believe it's because he used to have a crush on you, but it doesn't necessarily mean he wants to be with you. I think it feels weird for him to talk to you about her because he used to like you.

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  • disthing

    Ask his girlfriend if it's normal her boyfriend described her as just "OK"

    >:)

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  • Darkoil

    He wants to put his p in your v.

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  • jb95

    Ok listen I'm a guy i've been in this situation before you can trust me on this I think if he's indifferent about his girlfriend that he supposedly thinks is amazing around you its because he's is settling for her he was either trying to tell you that when he sounded indifferent or he was upset that he wasnt with you. I say talk to him about it see how he reacts then if you want to be with him and he wants to be with you well then you know what to do.

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  • kingsleycrowne

    I think he is keeping his options open in case it falls through with his current girlfriend. I think he still has interest in you

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  • Ldizzy1234

    Maybe you're the only trusting one that he feels like he can really open up to about things.

    Those facebook pictures could be his way of hiding the truth.

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  • Energy

    I'm the same way.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Maybe he is looking to you for a way out of a relationship that seemed like a good idea at the time but then he realised it's not you.

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