Is it normal for a guy to seem clueless about how much you’ve cried over him?

Its normal

What you need is do is to distance yourself from him, and forget about your feelings for him, because he's unavailable. There's no point in chasing after someone who is unavailable unless you are afraid of intimacy, or commitment.

Are you the girl who said she had a thing for her best friend, and now they are friends with benefits, but he doesn't want more, because he's holding out for someone who fits his ideal? Don't allow yourself to be used.

This isn't popular to say but most guys understand that crying is a manipulative tool.

Move on, and I mean truly move on by making him actual "friend," status and find another guy to like that will like you back. If ending your feelings for him means that you need to take a break from the friendship and distance yourself, then so be it.

Sadly, he's too immature to know what love really means. By waiting around for a woman who rejected/blocked him, it shows he has a grandiose idea of romance that's unhealthy/unrealistically. That's a red flag. He's a great person, but he needs that time to make mistakes so he can mature, and as hurtful as it is to see him do this to himself, sometimes you got to stand back and let them so they can learn through experience.

Yes shit like this happens. I have a girl from work who texted me all sad yesterday because she wants to be with me but I told her "casual only" because I have other partners and she broke down real bad. Shit like this happens, but the way your handling it isn't great. You need to move on, this guy doesn't owe you anything.

Yeah. And the reality is that usually a person won't care much unless they feel things for you also, but if you're friends that changes of course. Unless you've told him this of course he'll be clueless about it and either way you should probably move on.

Anyone who puts you on a “waiting list” is not worth your time. You deserve to be number one. Follow Rose’s advice and distance yourself from him, join clubs, spend time with other friends, in time your feelings will fade.

Its normal but you should move on.

Don’t bother dropping hints guys don’t pick up on them. You need to ask him straight out, do you find me attractive? If he says no forget him, move on. If he says yes tell him straight out, I’m in love with you, I want more than the occasional sex then back to just mates again. If he rejects the idea then you must distance yourself from him so you can move on. Tell him this, let him realise there are no more free passes to the fun house, he has a choice he either commits or moves on

Yeah, a lot of guys are pretty clueless about this sort of stuff (myself included.) If you want to be sure he knows then I would actually tell him. One time I got offered a blowjob without realizing it until a lot later, lol.

There's always the chance he does know, but I definitely think that there are quite a few guys who are brain dead in picking up social cues

You've posted this several times. You're way too obsessed and wasting your time on someone you'll never have.

You've posted about this before, but I've just realized that you're just as bad as him. You're in love with a person who's rejected you because he's in love with a person who's rejected him.