Is it normal for a guy to say this on a date? how would you women feel about this?

I think you are being too sensitive over what was meant to be a compliment. I get it. I have disliked my body for a long time and you can't agree or disagree with me without causing unnecessary emotion. Based on what you said, he was being nice. Many guys do like a woman with curves.

I think it was annoying for you to bring the whole thing up, push the issue, then have a bad reaction to whatever came out of his mouth. There was no way for him to win in that situation.

If someone does that to me, I get annoyed and would have left.

Low self esteem is annoying af. What could he possibly have said that you would have been happy with?

If someone is dating you or on a date, it is safe to assume they are attracted to you. They would not be there otherwise.

When someone is insecure about themselves or their looks, that is more off-putting than anything about their appearance.

What exactly did you expect him to say? No matter what his response, it wouldn't have been good enough anyways.

I'm sure some women would be creeped out by it because many women have bought into the idea that skinny is beautiful, and they're heavily invested in hating their own bodies. Most people find challenges to their mindset on any topic disturbing, and it's human nature to try invalidate them. Often the easiest route to that is dismissing the person who holds contrary views as being stupid, deluded or a liar.

Would you have felt more comfortable at the end of the date if the guy had agreed with your opinion and called you disgusting? If so, then you clearly need to do some work on self-acceptance. If you would have been just as disturbed by that as you were by what he did say, then maybe you need to spend some time trying to sort out what exactly it is you want from a guy.

You have the right to hold on to whatever beliefs you choose to have about your own body. If you want to, you can wallow in self-loathing and make decisions about diet and exercise regimes that cause you long-term harm as you try to mould yourself into conformity with the Hollywood and advertising industry's version of the perfect female form. Your body; your choice.

Even though you asked only for responses from women, it was a guy who said this, and the implied question is why he did.

The fact is that there are a lot of guys who don't find women who have the same shape they had when they were prepubescent girls attractive. It is true that some guys like women who are anorexic, but it's also true that some guys like women who are grossly obese. The majority of guys are somewhere in the middle, and there's no shortage of guys who do indeed find a little belly-bump on women sexy.

Okay so I love fatties. But I have made the mistake of trying to say I like that part about them but then they just say "your calling me fat" and fucking ignore me even though I like that their fat. So I just don't bring it up anymore. Lost tooo many mf tinder dates this way.

Id assume he means what he said. Some guys like extra weight on women. There was even a thing in a film about girls having pot bellies.
Anyway i wouldn't draw attention to your own perceived " flaws" anymore. Its not going to help your confidence.

Men are really good at saying what they think is a compliment when they are just being a dick

I would be irritated and leave honestly. I don't got time for that shit anymore

I would've been happy to hear it honestly

I'm in the 90's area when it comes to weight(do to health issues) right now. I've always had a stomach but thought it was just because I was fat but after all these health problems came around and my weight started dropping to what it is now, I find I still have it

It doesn't bother me as much as it used to since I've come to terms with it but sometimes I try to wear certain outfits and it starts to come to mind again

To have someone I like and would want to get to know better tell me it's okay, or just to have someone viewing from the outside that isn't me, tell me it's not as bad as I believed it to be and not only that, but they actually think it's cute... I would've been happy

Unfortunately a flat stomach just isn't in my genes because no amount of weight loss, diet, or excersize has worked up until now(many years of my life). HOWEVER, I can live through life not being so hung up over it. Even more so now that I've read this.. To know there's someone out there who thinks that way... Idk I guess it's given me a bit of a pep in my step :)

I can't speak for you or anyone else and how they should take hearing something like that since we've all walked in different shoes in life, but I thought I'd share

I'd just sleep with him right away.

Maybe he was actually just being nice?

You're overthinking it. What he said wasn't creepy at all. He was trying to make you feel better. As a former fat chick I WISH I could've gotten a good comment like that. Lol

No

You just can't win with some people. You started the conversation and he tried to move past it with his neutral response but you wouldn't let him move past it and socially demanded him to give you a response to the topic you initiated. The man clearly tried to make you feel better about yourself as you are.

Fuckin' hell. What type of person are you to put another person in a situation and then try to claim he could be creepy for it?

Ugh. You're just the worst.

On one hand, fat is ugly.
That's how I was raised.
That said, how you feel about yourself matters.
At the same time though, it's nice to have someone who you want to look good for.
I wouldnt be worried about what he said.
He will say anything to score.

My home scale says I am 110lbs (doctor I weighed in at 117). Was not pleased that they didn't make me take all my clothes off for an accurate reading. Long story short, women will never be happy with their appearance. Something will Always knock us down, but we have to brush it off, lest it consume us.

He's trying to be nice and complimentary but has fucked it.

I can see myself liking a girl, wanting to build her confidence up in an area she's said is low, saying something exactly like that, face planting without realising it, then walking away after the date's finished thinking "ahh man, I nailed that, I really think she's going to feel better".

He just aint smooth, sweetheart, heart of gold, tongue of shit.