Is it normal for a guy to focus on only one thing?

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Is it normal for a guy to put all of his attention on one thing more than the other? Especially if its his new job and he wants everything to be well done. My bf right now has a new job and it pretty much takes up the whole day, every day and he needs to travel long distance for it. So he's a pretty busy man right now and I understand if he doesn't have the time to act like a bf right now like giving me attention and always talking to me. He has admitted that it takes time for him to absorb and learn information so he has trained himself on how to focus better and I guess one the ways is to put all his attention in one thing at the moment. He doesn't know how to balance everything but were long distance too so that gives him space to focus all he wants. So in other words, should I be concerned if he doesnt try to balance it all out or I should just be patient and let him do his thing and support him while he manages his job? Help please. Oh and should I be concerned too if because he's so focused on his job right now, he comes off as with or without me he's fine? As if I don't really matter? He might not be doing this intentionally but that's just how he's making me feel right now. I feel like I need to put my pride away and not take it personally but maybe I should be concerned.

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  • pixie44
    9 years ago

    Have you ever heard the saying a guy has a one-tracked mind?
    Some people can multitask better than others. Woman are better at it because we're built that way. We are able to take care of our kids and still be able to do other tasks needed.
    I don't think it's bad because a job is an important thing to focus on. I'd let him know how you're feeling but try not to take it too personally. Especially if it's long distance, I'm sure he feels the same way as you. Either way you're still important to him, but sometimes you have to be a little selfish in a relationship to still finish your life goals you made for yourself.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Selfish to what extent though? People say its about making time for your Gf not having time. Well realistically, he's really crunched in his schedule like his only free time are the weekends and like I said were long distance so we dont really get to see each other that often. We do talk about when we should see each other but it doesn't seem like its happening any time soon. Could he be trying harder? Could I be trying harder? Like you said we are being selfish with our time especially him and I'm trying not to take it too personal as if he doesn't feel like seeing me.

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      • pixie44
        9 years ago

        I've never been in a long distance relationship so I can't tell you if you should try harder or not. I do know from friends that long distance relationships are very very hard. But celebrities do it all the time, so I'm sure it's doable. Its just is it worth it to be with out the other person? That's a personal decision. Wish you the best<3

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  • peterrabbyt
    9 years ago

    Does he still take the time to eat your sweet cunt?

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