Is it normal for a guy to act rude to protect his hurt feelings?

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So my ex and I broke up like a month ago. It was mutual even though it hurt and it still hurts. But it wasn't like we left with any bad blood. So things have been very chill and calm post break up. We have each other on social media but don't talk. However, recently he decided to post like a meme that ruthlessly hinted he's enjoying his single life and isn't looking to settle down any time soon. He accompanied the post with the laughing emojis and a-okay emoji. I was completely shocked when I saw that because out of nowhere he decided to throw this at my face when I hadn't done anything out of spite to him. Heres why I think he did this; two weeks after splitting he tried reaching out to me but never actually sent the message. You know when on iPhone it shows the dots someone is typing? well that happened and more than once within a week. So he was obviously trying to reach me but hesitated. I think knowing me, he expected me to message him back so the fact tat I didn't might have hurt his feelings a little. So he got bitter. Then I posted photos of me going out and he saw them and the day after is when he posted that meme. I feel like he was just trying to play it off like hes doing fine and doesn't miss me just cause it SEEMS like Im doing fine when Im not, I miss him. But hes the one who wanted to break up so its not like Im gonna crawl back to someone who doesn't want to be with me. But he tried reaching out to me so that made me feel a little hope he is missing me. But then he had to post that and just turn everything around. I was pretty disappointed he had turn this into something sour.

So I have a feeling its just him being a guy trying to protect his ego and look like nothing is bothering him when it is. If this is the case, should I reach out to him soon? To be honest, I dont want to reach out to him lol I dont feel like it at all which feels good but that doesn't mean I dont wanna talk to him. Ill just look down on myself if I chased him after everything hes been put me through. Plus, itll just feel a million times better if he actually contacted me rather than pretend he doesn't care. Or are these his real feelings?

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    I get you still love this guy and all, but you should really be focused on moving on.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Right but what I wanna know is if this is a case of a guy trying to protect his pride by acting rude all of a sudden. So is it normal? Like I said, we were mutual after breaking up so I was doing fine moving on little by little but then he had to lash out and it did hurt my feelings because it was out of nowhere. I'm wondering if it's even worth it to be upset because if he is just trying to play it off then Im good I shouldn't be upset but if those are his real feelings then wow I don't know how it all started considering we were both acting cordial.

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      • Tealights
        7 years ago

        It doesn't matter. Move on.

        Ending a relationship isn't as easy as everyone hopes for it to be, even if it ends maturely/calmly, both parties need time to get over the break up and regain their own lives. Expecting both of you to be civil, or friends so quickly is foolish thinking. As best as you can, just focus on yourself and ignore him.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          Actually its quite possible as Ive seen it in many cases. I don't get how people like you think so black and white. Anything is possible. Someone just told me to not base my decisions on other people's experiences or opinions and it has resonated with me. I think everyone should take that advice. Just cause according to society its impossible to be friends with your ex, doesn't mean it's actually impossible.

          So I appreciate your advice as focusing on myself is my main priority now but I would have appreciated it even more if you answered my initial question. The thing is I can't just move on because we didn't cut it off completely. If we did yeah why bother but we're still in the same loop in some way.

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          • Tealights
            7 years ago

            Yeah yeah, I get that you're annoyed and all that, but I never said being friends with an ex was impossible, it just doesn't happen as quickly as many would like it to. But hey, thanks for assuming my stance on what I consider societal norms or if I think of them as norms at all, you know me so damn well gurl.

            Anyway, move on and stop making excuses.

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        Why do you label what he did as rude when you'd done pretty much the same thing?

        You need to get over your obsession about what may or may not be going on in his head and move on

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          Wait what did I do that was rude? Please explain. You might have misunderstood something

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Male ego nothing more. Ignore it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      I hate the male ego. If only they can recognize when they can be vulnerable and it's okay. Not fear of being ridiculed for caring

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      • mysistersshadow
        7 years ago

        I feel bad for guys that can't figure out they don't have to be assholes to get a womans respect. And I doubt they realize how much they are there own worst enemy in the dating game.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          Thats a true way to look at it. They are their own worst enemy. I mean for instance what my ex did was just pure bitterness and carelessness. Even though I know he most likely doesn't feel that way, the fact that he had the nerve to throw it in my face makes me not want him. In a way, I'm disappointed because I thought he was better than that but no he just gave me a valid reason why he's not worth it.

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          • mysistersshadow
            7 years ago

            ppl can really surprisr you with how spiteful they can be.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    You may be making mountains out of anthills. It's not nomal to notice iphone texting dots and it's not normal to write an essay into your ex's mindset. He's bitter and you are overly critical. Just move on and time will heal.

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