Is it normal for a guy to act like this if he starts falling for a girl ?

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I've been seeing this guy for a couple of months now. We are both in our early twenties- he's a couple of years older. I was very interested at first and I initiated contact and everything. Now he seems to be smittin with me, he is extra nice it's almost smothering. He is so scared to offend me that sometimes I think he adapts to my point of view on almost everything. He would apologize for the smallest mistakes and feel really guilty about them even when I tell him that it didn't bother me (things like not confirming our date earlier). He showers me with lots of attention and is always about impressing me...He's never tried to pressure me or impose himself on me though.

I don't know but I feel like he's so occupied with what I want that I can't get to know the real him. I still think I like him & i find him very attractive but sometimes I get so annoyed that I start questioning if I can even put up with him.

Everyone keeps telling me that he's a great guy and that he's just acting like that because he lacks experience. My brother even got mad at me and because he believes I'm about to ruin something with a great potential with a decent guy just because he's innocently acting on his feelings.

This whole things is really bothering me. I don't want to miss out on a good thing with him. But is it normal for a guy to act so attentive and even lose himself a little at the beginning? Or is it a red flag? does his behavior hide some sort of insecurity??
Please help me..

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  • Lia
    11 years ago

    Wow you should bring it up with him. You want to be his equal, not have him sit you on a pedestal and admire you to a fault.

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    • Unimportant
      11 years ago

      Although that's fun, too.

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  • scrount
    11 years ago

    Don't break up with him. Try and work at changing his overly-nice way of treating you like a princess. From the sounds of it he sounds like he's truly in love, or at least thinks he is, that or he's inexperienced. Just outright tell him that he is being too nice and too overly-careful about trying not to hurt your feelings. He doesn't have to be that way towards you if you find it just a bit too much and you tell him that, but take a gentle approach because he sounds quite sensitive, but if you just share your feelings with him then he should understand.

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  • justina5565
    11 years ago

    He is really nice. dont move to fast take it slow. talk to him about taking slow. In this world we not use to people being nice. I not going to say he is to nice. dont try to change him that would be a mistake. sometimes you can turn someone into you dont want. people sometimes cant help who they are. try to keep his mind on something else, try talking about goals. if you feel like he is smothing you then take a break go out to store or write. just go out have some along time.

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    It sounds unhealthy. I would say it's a red flag. Relationships that I've been in that started that way definitely turned out badly.

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  • MsWVgal
    11 years ago

    Sounds like he's inexperienced, and yes people sometimes get overly focused on a new relationship. Just tell him how you feel, make sure to thank him when he does something nice, and don't get mad over the little things.

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  • Ms.difficult
    11 years ago

    Yeah, definitely tell him about how you're feeling. I used to be like this and the way I got out of it was by having people tell me constructively about how it bothered them. If he's mature enough to handle that kind of feedback and learn from it, it will end up making him feel far more comfortable as well as making you feel comfortable.

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