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My sister is so oblivious she puts them on the fridge anyway. Also the kid never smiles or plays with toys.
Kids have a morbid curiosity at that age, so to an extent it's normal...really hard to say where the line is.
I work with a kid who used to say disturbing shit. I've worked with him from a young age and for four years, now. He has attentive parents and adults surrounding him and watches little to no TV. There is no abuse im his background. He's possibly on the spectrum, and he definitely has under developed empathy.
It started when he started at kinder. Being exposed to other children who have older siblings often brings on unwelcome behaviour. With him, we've had to guide it to teach him it's inappropriate to tell someone he's going to kill them or some shit. Building empathy and gentle non tolerance of the behaviour ia useful.
But like I said, it's hard to know where the line is, and it doesnt benefit a child to be labelled as "wrong" or "bad", particularly when they are possibly exhibiting age appropriate behaviour. Adults are very good at stifling kids and forcing them to be what we expect. That's another fine line...teaching them to be "good" people, while allowing them the freedom to grow in their own way.
When I was that age, many long years ago, I used to draw pictures of people being processed on a conveyor belt in a factory, being bound and gagged and mummified and packaged by mass-production automation, and then taken away for storage in a warehouse. There was absolutely nothing in my background or environment that could possibly have contributed to this, and the adults around me took no notice of the pictures. It was just my weird young imagination.
I outgrew it with no external behavioral manifestations and no lasting effects. Today I have my quirks, but they have absolutely nothing to do with that weird early shit, which looking back leaves me feeling puzzled and quite put off by it. Still no idea where it could have come from.
Maybe approach her gently and say "so, what makes you want to draw this?" I'm really not sure if this is normal or not. If she doesn't know it's taboo, I'd say it's somewhat normal.
Who is so irresponsible that a 5 year old even had access to this stuff? This goes way beyond the child's problem, but rather points to poor, if not criminal, parenting.
Beyond getting help for the child, this home needs to be investigated by child services, because I think something is very, very wrong there.
Just a side note; I am very much against the whole the family 'interference' services thing, in most situations.
What's so terrible about a child with a macabre imagination? Why does he need ' help?' Why are the parents criminal in their parenting?
I doubt seriously that this is uninfluenced "imagination", but rather a reflection of watching videos of beheadings on the computer, or perhaps only a reflections of conversations she's overheard in the home. It's awfully coincidental if it is just imagination, don't you think, with all that in the news these days?
Or at least that was my take on the post.
Because he's drawing people with their heads cut off. Which means he's thinking about it.. why would a little kid be thinking about that stuff? He either has a mental disorder or is being introduced to violent movies, video games etc.
It's been proven that kids who are introduced to violence earlier in life have a greater chance to be violent themselves.
And the fact that the mom is "rewarding" the child by hanging the pictures on the fridge is only encouraging the child's behavior and telling the kid that those thoughts are ok.
And let's also not forget that he never smiles? It could be a lack of emotion which could be many things.
What the hell do you let him watch? It's not normal for a 5 year old to think of that without outside input.
I'm not sure about this, to be honest. Every year on my birthday, I would draw the weirdest cartoon on a paper plate: the number I was turning in the center on a pedestal, surrounding by the numbers of my most recent previous age. The number before my my most recent previous age were always depicted in a tank full of water, devoured by crocodiles or piranhas. (10 would be on a pedestal, surrounded by a bunch of nines and the eights would be drowned and devoured.)
I didn't have violent parents except for spankings and the occasional slip up. They never let me watch the news. I just came up with it on my own.