Is it normal for a father to want a daughter more than a son

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I am not a father yet, but I imagine that if I do become one someday, I would prefer to have a daughter over a son. Growing up, I had a younger brother and two female cousins who were both older than me. But somehow, perhaps irrationally, I don't want to essentially re-enact my own life or project my hopes and desires and unfulfilled wishes on my potential son. And although I realize it is wrong and immoral, deep inside me I have this feeling of wanting a daughter who grows into this beautiful young teenage girl who boys and men lust over, and a girl I can be proud of calling my daughter and not just saying she's beautiful because she's my kid but because she is truly gorgeous and sweet and pretty. I've always been insecure about my own personal failures and awkwardness with women and with women treating me badly, so in a way I want to get revenge by having a beautiful daughter who will love me unconditionally and who will basically kind of mentally compensate for my past, if that makes sense.

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  • disthing
    9 years ago | pl

    I was going to say normal, until I saw that it was because you want a pretty sex object for a daughter as 'revenge'.

    That's just odd.

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  • seakelp
    9 years ago | pl

    You've got issues bud. Talk to a therapist.

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  • TheOneWhoComesFromEnordro
    9 years ago

    Unless you produce good reasons as to why you want a certain-gendered child, then you're not ready to become a parent and you shouldn't do it. The whole "I want my daughter to be sexy" is kind of creepy. Would you love your hypothetical daughter anyless if she were just a plain jane? If so, then you definately shouldn't do it for being a parent requires that you have unconditional love towards your child. No, I'm not a parent but I have an idea to what contributes a good one.

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  • imadragon
    9 years ago

    From your text it seems like you only thing you value in women are their looks..

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Your motivation is all wrong and quite frankly you sound like a creepy ass future incest perpetrator.

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    • Johnnytherat
      9 years ago

      its like you could read my mind..... stay out of my thoughts!!!! *pulls the pin on a grenade and puts it in his own mouth*

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        NOOOOOOO!
        * yanks grenade out yo mouth and throws it squarely at OP's crotch*
        :-P
        Whew, that was close! I've got some cheese if you're interested! I'm a lover of rodentia, particularly mice and rats! @-->---
        *Pulls out a cheesy bean burrito*
        :-)

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          i hope you enjoy being gassy

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          • RoseIsabella
            9 years ago

            I do indeed.

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    *gets out the hedge clippers and looks at the ballsack

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    • Johnnytherat
      9 years ago

      Let me handle this.. *Puts on steel toed boots* alright weirdo, its soccer time.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      What the heck are you talking about?

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      • NotHumanAtAll
        9 years ago

        I think this person doesn't think you should be having kids and is making necessary preparations for a castration.

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        • RoseIsabella
          9 years ago

          Hurrah!

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        • CountessDouche
          9 years ago

          Wish I could give you multiple thumbs up, sir...I was going to give it a normal until her started expounding.

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          • CountessDouche
            9 years ago

            Or ma'am !

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  • lordothedark
    8 years ago

    Yeah, that'll teach all the women that treated you bad. /s

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  • SkullsNRoses
    9 years ago

    How does this have so many normal votes? The idea of a man only wanting a daughter so she can be a sex object for men is terrifying.

    OP, it's good that you're looking for a solution to your problems but I really don't think having a daughter for these reasons is the right answer.

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  • tripw7
    9 years ago

    Obviously after reading some of the comments, you must realize that your direction is not really what a normal fun loving, respectable person would want for an offspring. When you say. "I want to get revenge by having a beautiful daughter who will love me unconditionally and who will basically kind of mentally compensate for my past". What? You should rethink about having any children would be my response.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      there's nothing wrong with wanting children and desiring certain qualities in them in order to "get back" at society

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  • TheWanderer
    9 years ago

    Everything in your statement is normal, except for wanting a girl who grows up to be a sex object that men lust over.....that's just wrong man....

    I mean, any father in the world hates that. I hope you get it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      they say they hate it but they secretly want/like it

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I feel similarly, but for apparently quite different reasons.

    I would be so, so much more open to having children if it was somehow guaranteed that I could produce only girls. I do not know why I'm like this, but I feel that I simply wouldn't be able to relate to a boy even on the most basic and rudimentary level.

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    "I have this feeling of wanting a daughter who grows into this beautiful young teenage girl who boys and men lust over"

    (.........)

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  • Karmasbitch
    9 years ago

    My daughter is amazing. Extremely happy to have a little girl

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Are you a father?

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