Is it normal for a date to go from fun to creepy in like 2 seconds?

so I started dating this guy friend of mine that has been pursuing me for a long time. on the second real date we messed around a lot and saw a great movie and then literally five minutes before I was gonna invite him in for more some adult fun , he won't let me get out of the car and starts driving towards a secluded place and says we are doing what he wants, it was freaky his whole demeanor and voice changed, I ran out of the car at a red light and went home.

not sure what to think now.I don't know if it is a good idea to contact him.he always was like this awkward prince charming who sent me flowers and stuff. I told him he didn't have to spend money on me we could go dutch if he wanted. Looking back I remember everyone giving us really strange looks everywhere we went when were together. I don't know what to think now.I do tend to overreact cuz I had something bad happen to me back in high school.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome

    That's scary. You should stay away from that dude, serioussly. This wasn't your fault and you didn't overreact. Good thing you ran out.

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    • sillygirl77

      100% agree. OP you did NOT overreact. You did the right thing to run off. Do NOT contact him. It's NOT normal for him to try to take you someplace secluded without your consent and say we're going to do what I want :(. I'm so glad you're safe. Stay safe and stay away from him. I'd even take it a step further and put in a police report, but of course that's up to you.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Good on you, girl, for escaping from that creepshow's car! I think you should not contact him ever again, and that you should never ever return any correspondence to him when he attempts to contact you!

    One thing that really caught my eye was that you said he had been pursuing you for a long time, and he was an awkward prince charming. I'm a firm believer that no means no, so I am not a fan of overly persistent suitors. Tenacity can be cute and endearing when it's coming from a small terrier, but I find it very distasteful and disrespectful when someone vying for my affections cannot take no for an answer. When I say no I mean no, and no explanation should ever be required or desired. If someone continues to ask me out or hold a torch for me after I've said no more than two or three times then I have no other logical course of action than to recognize that this is a person who does not respect me and is delusional enough to think that he knows what's good for me more than I do myself. I personally tend to think that people who can't take no for an answer don't respect or care for the unfortunate objects of they're twisted affections.

    I certainly hope that this slimy bastard will leave you alone, and this will be the end of this mess. Just in case this whole matter escalates to stalking and further harassment, I want to encourage you to keep and not delete any texts, emails and or voicemails that he sends your way in case you need those things for evidence in the future. It's possible that he might stalk and harass you in the future, and if that should happen you will most likely need to take out a restraining order. Like I said earlier, I hope he just leaves you alone.

    Once again I say good job at following your instincts. Hang I there, girl! All the best, and God bless!

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    • forgotusernameagain

      I wish I could thumb this up a buncho times. The second paragraph is 100% what was on mah mind

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  • mysistersshadow

    Sounds like a loser. Cut ties.

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  • The_Creep_is_here

    This guy is dangerously creepy. Don't look back and stay away from him. He sounds dangerous.

    On the other hand, if you would like a fun loving creep that is very attentive, I'm available.

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  • DuHast

    It's hard to tell if you were overreacting due to past trauma, or he genuinely had bad intentions, or a bit of both.
    It's odd that you remember people giving you both strange looks. Like, why do you think they were looking at you funny?

    Other than that, always better safe than sorry. So, you did the safest thing. Why *would* you contact him? Wouldn't that be a little bit ridiculous, given what happened?
    It sounds like he turned psycho, but it's hard to know what actually happened or what his intentions were vs how you interpreted them.
    I'm not doubting you, just being honest.

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  • WinterStormGuy_Of_Feb9,1968

    You have history of wanting to date guys who
    give off a bad image or could be the bad boy side
    just like i have a habit of dating those little
    drama queens with every word comes out of their
    mouth is a lie and hardly ever the truth.

    What's wrong is were desperate to be loved and
    now I been recently approached by my third cousin
    who wants to take me out on a dinner date so I'm
    scratching my head and just wondering. LoL

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  • uhyeah1990

    thanks guys. wait it gets better! I chatted with his sweet old neighbor lady and one of the people giving us the looks and found out he is probably a pimp or worse.Also, he lied about everything. Now I know why all the women at the one place we used to volunteer at either quit or refused to volunteer with him. ( I moved and didn't know about this until like yesterday.)

    I am never contacting him again,I hope he doesn't show up at the opening of my show.I can't cancel ,too many hopes and dreams riding on this.I will have extra security on hand.

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  • MR.mr

    I don't think there's enough info here from his actions to decide for sure what he was up too, maybe he was just nervous because he had something specif planned out to impress you and he didn't know how to react when you wanted to change things up idk?

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