Is it normal for a 43 - 23 affair of the heart

Are my feelings normal?I just experienced, which I've never had one before in my marital history and no afterwards I did not feel any better, actually worse.I was out of town on business walking down the street after work and contemplating my miserableness and saw an attractive girl stepping out of a bar, I glanced over, admiring her presence and continued walking and she walked right behind me. As I sensed her opening a door to go into a store I boldly turned around to check her out once more not caring if she noticed, she made eye contact and we started a conversation. She invited me back to the bar she just left. I said well, thanks, but I gotta wake up early the next day, which I really didn't, then I said to myself what the h*ll, why not. Well, she bought me a drink, told me she was 23 and I told her I was 43. We hit it off, I told her I was leaving the next day and staying in a hotel up the street within walking distance. She said bye to her male friend she was hanging out with at the bar. Up to my grand age of 43 , I've never done anything like this before, but I knew what was coming next. She said lets go. At this point I was on like a major drug of excitement and endorphins. We went back to the hotel room and I swear there was no hesitation on either part. I layed my lips on this precious being and I swear it felt like I was consuming her with all of my desire. At the time, it was the most awsome thing I think I have ever experienced.The sexual energy was so intense. I had this beautiful creature all to myself for one whole night. This was certainly not the activity I experience at home with the wife, which is understandably mundane on a regular basis.There is a saying, fast in, fast out. It is true. This was a typical one night stand and I kept telling myself this, but my heart and body wanted more, more, more. Nope. not gonna happen, she being a college girl is the epitamy of life, vibrance, friends galore. It was fun for a brief moment to feel younger and be a part of that vibrant, wild, tumultuous world she lives in. But now it was back to the same old sh*t, different day routine and wondering if I would ever experience anything close to that again. As far as my emotions, they took a nose dive. I think I was trying to associate all the physicality with emotions of the heart and it really screwed me up for a little while. Botton line, I was longing for it to be more then it was, versus reality. As great as the euphoric moment was, I would have been better off passing on that drink offer. Please don't bash me on the marriage/morality issue, I already know what I did was beyond totally wrong to my partner. Can anyone see the woods through the trees for me? Is it normal?

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63% Normal
Based on 16 votes (10 yes)
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  • NoraBaker

    1 word: cheating IIN? To sum it up in a few lines: a 43 yo asshole fucked a 23 yo and now thinks wife is shit. He wants to know if it's normal.

    OP I'm really sorry, can't get past this part of the story. I get really disappointed every time I hear of a partner's trust being betrayed. :/

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  • Road2nowhere

    ok, first off, yes it IS normal, not to be rushing off to bed with somebody in that exact way, but to see a person fall in a crazy kind of desiring love for them in 2 seconds, and feel you need that energy every day for days/weeks/months after ? You are just normal, and experiencing something very very special.

    I personally am neither for or against such a thing. To me (and i've been cheated on several times, even now I live with a lady who seems to think that having a sex-only mate when I met her, is something to be proud of), anyway, to me, those who have not experienced seeing a person and feeling that kind of drive ? Well they are the ones who cannot believe or understand it, and im sorry to say, it would be there loss.

    No one person is nailed to a wall of inaffection the second a relationship starts, nor are they then immune to such, either for life, or one nite of sex by chance.

    Many may never see that reality, but trust me on this - when it happens, you wont care, and certainly wont be able to think carefully or scrutinize every detail of the morals involved.

    We all need company, and that special contact. Maybe it comes from the person we are living with every day if we are sooooo lucky, or maybe it will be a random chance once in 20 years.

    Would any who disagree with the event think it better to go home and declare a divorce ? Personally, i would rather just never know - 100% out of site, out of mind.

    The main thing is, coming back down to earth once our mind has experienced such a thing. Now that, is beyond difficult, and another story.

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  • ArayaLioness

    Is it normal to be a cheating sleaze? It seems to be quite the "norm" these days to simply throw your vows out the window.

    I hope your wife divorced you and took everything. I can't "help" people who do so wrong by others.

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  • wafflesundays

    Wow you should write a book for older single woman how you worded your sexual feelings for your slut was intense. Stop lookin for excitement with strangers and wow your woman she prob thinks your a plank of wood these days

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  • derker

    too long. sum it up in 1 word.

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