Is it normal first sexual experience pretty young?

13 is within the typical age of staring to have sex.

We all do things that we wish we had not done when we were growing up. That is totally normal. Ask yourself what did you learn and what would you change for the future, and just do better moving forward.

Have a great life...

i going to be honest im in my 50s .n when i was young as in 12 .13 14 it was normal to meet n kiss n be touched . when u liked eachother . now adays it seem to be a crime to do that . . and even goes to court rooms all i can say is thank god im not a young person growing up . the new world is not changing for the better . now if a person is forced yes thats a crime .but if 2 young people are innocently growing up to me its normal maybe im wrong . . im a woman in her 50s

An age of consent exists in all civilised countries. The basic idea behind it is that kids below a certain, arbitrary age don't have the emotional and intellectual maturity necessary to make an informed decision about having sex and the possible consequences of it. The law also exist because an awful lot of guys find pubescent girls extremely attractive, and the thought of spending time in jail and public humiliation is a deterrent.

The age of consent rules are sometimes hard and fast, and sometimes special allowances are made which mean that a teen having sex with another teen within a particular age range isn't considered criminal. The laws on this are complicated and vary from state to state, but I suspect that it's likely the guy you had sex with when you were thirteen could have been convicted of statutory rape, regardless of how much you wanted it to happen.

The people who make laws may want people to behave in a certain way, but that doesn't necessarily mean that people always conform. Stuff goes on in private that never comes to the attention of law enforcement and an awful lot of kids find out about sex first-hand at a very young age without there being any dire, long-term consequences.

Your friend has a right to have firm opinions on this, but I assume she didn't know you back then, and she wasn't with you when the deed happened. If what happened was indeed statutory rape due to your young age, then, yeah, she is correct that you were raped in the legal sense. But I suspect there's no way she can know if you were mature enough to consent back then or if you were manipulated into agreeing, so she has no justification for declaring that you were raped in the sense of being violated, abused and used.

Frankly, she sounds like she could be one of those people who desperately needs to believe that life is all about black and white. It's possible that, in her mind, any sixteen-year-old guy who wants to have sex with a girl three years younger than him is an evil rapist, and any thirteen-year-old girl who has sex has, by definition, been raped. End. Of. Story.

But that's not how the real world works.

If you want, I'm sure you'd be able to think yourself into believing that you were the entirely innocent victim; our memories are far more malleable than most of us believe. You're also free to learn to hate the guy and hate yourself for allowing it to happen and not complaining to the cops afterwards. You could look back on the immature person you were then, call yourself stupid and wish you hadn't done it. Or, since you seem not to think about the incident(s) negatively, you can also just file it away as something you did once upon a time, draw what lessons you can from it and try to do things better the next time.

One thing you should not do is accept your friend's assessment as the one and only 'correct' assessment of this or anything else that has happened in your life.

Thirteen is a young age to lose your virginity and there would inevitably have been a maturity difference between you and a sixteen year-old, however there is no “right” way for you to feel about your first time. It’s perfectly valid for you to look back on it with any range of emotions, it was your experience and is your story to tell.

Yea, normal.